"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girl gave me her number... and I failed
- Thread starter Snowman23
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
TheBaconator
Senior Don Juan
You seriously need to step back and look at what happened.Snowman23 said:I'm wondering if this girl was even interested in me to begin with.
1.) You didn't make solid plans with her and then got mad at her when she planned something for you both to do. She didn't flake on you, you flaked on her and became a litlle baby because she planned something that didn't sit well with you.
2.) You constantly asked her about her ex, after meeting her what, a week ago? She's right, it's not your business to be poking into her affairs. Just because you are some jealous SOB doesn't make it right.
3.) You drunk dialed her at 4AM singing LOL!!!!
4.) She still took one of your calls, and politley told you "we'll see" on the prospects of getting together.
5.) You call her multiple times just 2 days later.
LMAO, wtf do you expect this woman to think? Guy who gets mad at her for not wanting to come out alone with him, asks about her ex, drunk dials her, curses her out, and then calls like a madman. She probably thinks you are a fckin lunatic, and rightfully so.
Vlad the Impaler
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Kinda? No, more like absolutely. If you're exhibiting jerk behavior, there isn't any "maybe, kinda, sorta" about it. It either is or isn't.I was drinking and felt kinda dissed because I wasn't planning on this and I kinda acted like a jerk. sarcastically asking if she gave her number out to anybody. Well anyway I kept pushing it and asked about her ex
Probably somewhat. But then you stomped her interest out.I'm wondering if this girl was even interested in me to begin with.
You're thinking this may turn around? Highly doubtful it will, because the damage has been done. You're hoping it turns around because you're attracted to her cute face, but notice that she's not sticking in there hoping it turns around.
Notice how she avoided making plans with you at that stage.I asked her if she was gonna be around later this week and she told me she didn't know because she doesn't have her schedule from her manager yet.
Compare it to earlier, before you did your damage:
"I called her earlier in the week and asked if she was gonna be around on the weekend, she said yeah".
She didn't have to hear first from anyone then.
That was actually smart of you to avoid getting into a situation with unknowns and potential c@ckblockers before having enough time in with her to have her interest in you high enough to override her friend's opinions/interrogation.She was going to be with a couple of her friends and wanted me to come. I was thinking it was going to be just me and her. So anyway I didn't want to go
Now, maybe there was something about that invite that made you feel dissed as you said (maybe it was 'what? she doesn't want to go out with just me?'), and maybe it was warranted to feel that way, I wouldn't know. But to ACT like a jerk and say the wrong things because of how you felt was the mistake. You see that, don't you?
And leaving multiple VMs and calling at 4AM and calling right back from a friend's phone (she suspects that was you) signals an incredible amount of creep factor and neediness to a woman. There's no need to act like that.
If she's being at all civil to you, it's probably because now she's concerned that you may show up outside her window one night and wishes to keep you placated.