Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girl gave me her number... and I failed
- Thread starter Snowman23
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
TheBaconator
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You seriously need to step back and look at what happened.Snowman23 said:I'm wondering if this girl was even interested in me to begin with.
1.) You didn't make solid plans with her and then got mad at her when she planned something for you both to do. She didn't flake on you, you flaked on her and became a litlle baby because she planned something that didn't sit well with you.
2.) You constantly asked her about her ex, after meeting her what, a week ago? She's right, it's not your business to be poking into her affairs. Just because you are some jealous SOB doesn't make it right.
3.) You drunk dialed her at 4AM singing LOL!!!!
4.) She still took one of your calls, and politley told you "we'll see" on the prospects of getting together.
5.) You call her multiple times just 2 days later.
LMAO, wtf do you expect this woman to think? Guy who gets mad at her for not wanting to come out alone with him, asks about her ex, drunk dials her, curses her out, and then calls like a madman. She probably thinks you are a fckin lunatic, and rightfully so.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Kinda? No, more like absolutely. If you're exhibiting jerk behavior, there isn't any "maybe, kinda, sorta" about it. It either is or isn't.I was drinking and felt kinda dissed because I wasn't planning on this and I kinda acted like a jerk. sarcastically asking if she gave her number out to anybody. Well anyway I kept pushing it and asked about her ex
Probably somewhat. But then you stomped her interest out.I'm wondering if this girl was even interested in me to begin with.
You're thinking this may turn around? Highly doubtful it will, because the damage has been done. You're hoping it turns around because you're attracted to her cute face, but notice that she's not sticking in there hoping it turns around.
Notice how she avoided making plans with you at that stage.I asked her if she was gonna be around later this week and she told me she didn't know because she doesn't have her schedule from her manager yet.
Compare it to earlier, before you did your damage:
"I called her earlier in the week and asked if she was gonna be around on the weekend, she said yeah".
She didn't have to hear first from anyone then.
That was actually smart of you to avoid getting into a situation with unknowns and potential c@ckblockers before having enough time in with her to have her interest in you high enough to override her friend's opinions/interrogation.She was going to be with a couple of her friends and wanted me to come. I was thinking it was going to be just me and her. So anyway I didn't want to go
Now, maybe there was something about that invite that made you feel dissed as you said (maybe it was 'what? she doesn't want to go out with just me?'), and maybe it was warranted to feel that way, I wouldn't know. But to ACT like a jerk and say the wrong things because of how you felt was the mistake. You see that, don't you?
And leaving multiple VMs and calling at 4AM and calling right back from a friend's phone (she suspects that was you) signals an incredible amount of creep factor and neediness to a woman. There's no need to act like that.
If she's being at all civil to you, it's probably because now she's concerned that you may show up outside her window one night and wishes to keep you placated.