"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl friend interest or?

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A girl I've been friends with for some time whom I've considered romantically but over all am not attracted to her that way, has been acting really nice towards me lately. She'll offer to make me breakfast when she's home alone, take me out for ice cream, invite me to family outings, etc. Basically things I wouldn't think a female friend would do. Is she interested in me romantically or have I just never noticed this behavior before and is pretty typical?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Usually when a girl invites me over for breakfast she gets cream for desert.
 

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NickBe said:
Usually when a girl invites me over for breakfast she gets cream for desert.

Haha. Exactly! You are being ****y/funny and don't even realize it.
 

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That is not ****y, that is confident. Read my reply their is a distinction between ****iness and confidence.
 

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If I wasn't looking at it from a humurous point of view, I would wonder what kind of woman would think to herself

"wow NickBe, you are so confident you want to cream me". Hardly a confidence statement in itself.

Some quality women you are hitting up, I tell you. Are they also 15 year olds? Or just women who act 15?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Haha I don't usually talk like that to women I just met. Not until they are in my bedroom on their knees. However there are no women here so it doesn't apply does it?
 

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How is any of that pertaining to my question?
 

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Don't you dare address the Dating Gods that way!
 

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haha well i didn't intend to cause a scuffle. just looking for some answers here.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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