She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I don't need anything from her. But I'm going to make her work to make up for what she did because she deserves to be punished for it so she knows not to do it again, and also then I get something awesome out of it that I can choose. Win-win for me.also you don't need to make her do anything. you should always be in control of the frame such that you don't need anything from her. so if she ever asks you what you want her to do to make up for it, just brush it off with something like "ill take a raincheck, i dont need anything from you now" or "just dont do that again."
She posted it 20-30 minutes before calling me, therefore this argument doesn't make sense. If she was going to try to get a rise out of me then she would have had to wait a reasonable amount of time for me to read it. She was genuinely sorry as evidenced by how she talked to me over the phone and to the extent of her apology and her willingness to make up for it. I know she will follow through because I know her apology was genuine, and even if she doesn't then I'll just kick her to the curb.How does that not mean the post wasn't about you? She tried calling you -- didn't work -- she tried passive/aggressive -- didn't work -- So she became waif girl and apologized offering you the world. You handled it well, but don't be surprised if she a. doesn't follow through or b. once she 'apologizes' she seems not quite so 'any thing for you' girl. I think b.
This all happened last night. She called me today after she got home from her parents' for mother's day.did she just call you one day out of the blue, realizing exactly what you were pissed about?
Yeah, you can disregard that post. I wrote that before I saw your post that said you had already banged her. Details like that really change the context.JLay87 said:Maybe you're right, I haven't actually taken her on a date or anything like that, but still that doesn't justify something like this.
And seriously dude, after she disrespects me so blatantly you want me to take her on a date???
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Heh heh. "Watch my tampons and birth control pills son."Johnnyventana said:Ultimate diss: "Watch my purse." (And do so while I mack some random)
My response: Eat my Arse!