Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't need anything from her. But I'm going to make her work to make up for what she did because she deserves to be punished for it so she knows not to do it again, and also then I get something awesome out of it that I can choose. Win-win for me.also you don't need to make her do anything. you should always be in control of the frame such that you don't need anything from her. so if she ever asks you what you want her to do to make up for it, just brush it off with something like "ill take a raincheck, i dont need anything from you now" or "just dont do that again."
She posted it 20-30 minutes before calling me, therefore this argument doesn't make sense. If she was going to try to get a rise out of me then she would have had to wait a reasonable amount of time for me to read it. She was genuinely sorry as evidenced by how she talked to me over the phone and to the extent of her apology and her willingness to make up for it. I know she will follow through because I know her apology was genuine, and even if she doesn't then I'll just kick her to the curb.How does that not mean the post wasn't about you? She tried calling you -- didn't work -- she tried passive/aggressive -- didn't work -- So she became waif girl and apologized offering you the world. You handled it well, but don't be surprised if she a. doesn't follow through or b. once she 'apologizes' she seems not quite so 'any thing for you' girl. I think b.
This all happened last night. She called me today after she got home from her parents' for mother's day.did she just call you one day out of the blue, realizing exactly what you were pissed about?
Yeah, you can disregard that post. I wrote that before I saw your post that said you had already banged her. Details like that really change the context.JLay87 said:Maybe you're right, I haven't actually taken her on a date or anything like that, but still that doesn't justify something like this.
And seriously dude, after she disrespects me so blatantly you want me to take her on a date???
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Heh heh. "Watch my tampons and birth control pills son."Johnnyventana said:Ultimate diss: "Watch my purse." (And do so while I mack some random)
My response: Eat my Arse!