When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"It's all your fault"Girl: blahblahblah..your so horny!
DOH! I swear I didn't copy your idea - you beat me to the post button. Great minds think alikesay it's all your fault and slap her a bit
Hah, say what you want about those other responses (the result of about 5 seconds of brain power), but don't accuse that response of putting a chick on a pedestal. Most chicks don't have naked pictures of themselves out on the 'net, so implying there are is a neg hit: you're implying that she's slutty."Only when I look at those naked pictures of you on the Internet"
(WEAK, you are putting her on a pedestal)
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You got it wrong. What I meant to say is that you are putting her on a pedestal by talking about how much you are attracted to her. You are giving her too much power.Originally posted by GirlCrazy
Hah, say what you want about those other responses (the result of about 5 seconds of brain power), but don't accuse that response of putting a chick on a pedestal. Most chicks don't have naked pictures of themselves out on the 'net, so implying there are is a neg hit: you're implying that she's slutty.
no, you've got it wrong. how could you possibly think that would be putting a girl on a pedastal? the sluttiest of the top 10 percent of sluts are the ones you see online.Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
You got it wrong. What I meant to say is that you are putting her on a pedestal by talking about how much you are attracted to her. You are giving her too much power.
Dude you have no idea of the situation you are in/what kind of girl it is/who is saying the C&F, that **** is not set in stone.Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
"yeah, i just saw myself in the mirror"
NOW THAT IS ****Y AND FUNNY! :woo: (the perfect response). Make sure that when you say that you move your hand through your hair as if you were calmbing it (now that would look really C/F)
"It's all your fault"
(WEAK, you are putting her on a pedestal)
"Only when I look at those naked pictures of you on the Internet"
(WEAK, you are putting her on a pedestal)
"Maybe if we took a cold shower together, that might help!"
(You have to say this in a C/F way to get this to work because if you sound serious it could backfire)
"Hah! You wish I was horny, you little vixen"
(dumb)
"And you're not?"
(dumb)
"Me? Horny? Why of all the scandalous things to say ... no, wait, yeah I'm horny..."
(dumb, sounds high school)
"Yeah .... and your point is?"
(dumb)
"Yes I'm horny, and if you hop in your car right now, we can be horny together..."
(saying it in a C/F way or it might backfire)
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oh, for crap sake, stop prefacing every single post you make with "Advice/Response/insert-synonym-here/etc from a female". All that is doing is telling people NOT to read your post, because typically, women give terrible advice to men about how to deal with women you are interested in. Why? Because you have no experience dating women yourself. Being one and dating one are two different things.Originally posted by blueangel83
Advice from a girl:
To begin with, how did the initial converstation start before she told you that you're "so horny"?
If she sounded serious then you need to tone it down, she is somewhat turned off.
If she said it in a flirtatious manner then she wants you to lay the pipe already.
I actually need a little bit more info so I can tell you exactly what she is thinking.
Metal... did I ever tell you I love you?Originally posted by MetalFortress
Oh, for crap sake, stop prefacing every single post you make with "Advice/Response/insert-synonym-here/etc from a female". All that is doing is telling people NOT to read your post, because typically, women give terrible advice to men about how to deal with women you are interested in. Why? Because you have no experience dating women yourself. Being one and dating one are two different things.
Picked that up from a guy I used to work with. At the time he was banging half the chicks in the office - all of them hot. I agree it sounds corny, and it beats the fvck out of me why it works, but it works.What COOL guy says "you little vixen" ? wtf
I'm often wrong, but this aint one of those times. Open your mind and see that this style of neg hitting actually takes her power away and gives it to you. Again, it's situational. Neg hit the wrong chick and the wrong time and she'll cry her eyes out like you just stole her puppy.You got it wrong. What I meant to say is that you are putting her on a pedestal by talking about how much you are attracted to her. You are giving her too much power.
I don’t fully agree with this.... I know 1st hand that women can give the best advice compared to the advice a man can give u. It all depends on WHO the chick u are asking is. And the same applies for men. Some MEN will give u sh!t advice, and some will give u golden advice. Same rules apply to women. So don’t go disregarding everything a WOMAN told u because its a WOMAN that told it to you, rather look at WHAT she is saying, and then judge if u think the ADVICE is good or not.Originally posted by MetalFortress
Oh, for crap sake, stop prefacing every single post you make with "Advice/Response/insert-synonym-here/etc from a female". All that is doing is telling people NOT to read your post, because typically, women give terrible advice to men about how to deal with women you are interested in. Why? Because you have no experience dating women yourself. Being one and dating one are two different things.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.