Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girl calling you "horny"...good responces?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
catch
Senior Don Juan
"you have excellent taste, babey!"
or
"i bet thats what you say to all the boys"
or
"yeah, i just saw myself in the mirror"
or
"yeah, keep yer hands off!"
blueangel83
Senior Don Juan
To begin with, how did the initial converstation start before she told you that you're "so horny"?
If she sounded serious then you need to tone it down, she is somewhat turned off.
If she said it in a flirtatious manner then she wants you to lay the pipe already.
I actually need a little bit more info so I can tell you exactly what she is thinking.
SparkleMotion
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
"It's all your fault"
"Only when I look at those naked pictures of you on the Internet"
"Maybe if we took a cold shower together, that might help!"
"Hah! You wish I was horny, you little vixen"
"And you're not?"
"Me? Horny? Why of all the scandalous things to say ... no, wait, yeah I'm horny..."
"Yeah .... and your point is?"
"Yes I'm horny, and if you hop in your car right now, we can be horny together..."
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
DOH! I swear I didn't copy your idea - you beat me to the post button. Great minds think alike
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
NOW THAT IS ****Y AND FUNNY! :woo: (the perfect response). Make sure that when you say that you move your hand through your hair as if you were calmbing it (now that would look really C/F)
"It's all your fault"
(WEAK, you are putting her on a pedestal)
"Only when I look at those naked pictures of you on the Internet"
(WEAK, you are putting her on a pedestal)
"Maybe if we took a cold shower together, that might help!"
(You have to say this in a C/F way to get this to work because if you sound serious it could backfire)
"Hah! You wish I was horny, you little vixen"
(dumb)
"And you're not?"
(dumb)
"Me? Horny? Why of all the scandalous things to say ... no, wait, yeah I'm horny..."
(dumb, sounds high school)
"Yeah .... and your point is?"
(dumb)
"Yes I'm horny, and if you hop in your car right now, we can be horny together..."
(saying it in a C/F way or it might backfire)
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
Hah, say what you want about those other responses (the result of about 5 seconds of brain power), but don't accuse that response of putting a chick on a pedestal. Most chicks don't have naked pictures of themselves out on the 'net, so implying there are is a neg hit: you're implying that she's slutty.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
You got it wrong. What I meant to say is that you are putting her on a pedestal by talking about how much you are attracted to her. You are giving her too much power.
naoi deag se deag
Senior Don Juan
wjh
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Oh, for crap sake, stop prefacing every single post you make with "Advice/Response/insert-synonym-here/etc from a female". All that is doing is telling people NOT to read your post, because typically, women give terrible advice to men about how to deal with women you are interested in. Why? Because you have no experience dating women yourself. Being one and dating one are two different things.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Metal... did I ever tell you I love you?
:flowers: :nervous:
Heh, I agree 100%. It's like when your cousin or lil sister or chick friend asks for dating advice. Whatever you say, it'll be quite worthless.
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
Picked that up from a guy I used to work with. At the time he was banging half the chicks in the office - all of them hot. I agree it sounds corny, and it beats the fvck out of me why it works, but it works.
C&F is a combination of what you say, how you say it, who you say it to and when you say it. It's all about instinct. Every chick is different. Every situation is different. Instinct can't be taught - you either have it or you don't.
I'm often wrong, but this aint one of those times. Open your mind and see that this style of neg hitting actually takes her power away and gives it to you. Again, it's situational. Neg hit the wrong chick and the wrong time and she'll cry her eyes out like you just stole her puppy.
I don’t fully agree with this.... I know 1st hand that women can give the best advice compared to the advice a man can give u. It all depends on WHO the chick u are asking is. And the same applies for men. Some MEN will give u sh!t advice, and some will give u golden advice. Same rules apply to women. So don’t go disregarding everything a WOMAN told u because its a WOMAN that told it to you, rather look at WHAT she is saying, and then judge if u think the ADVICE is good or not.
Just something for u to think about.
Laterz...
her: you're so horny
you: you're not?
ALWAYS turn whatever they say back on them. if she means it in a good way she'll say she is. if she meant it in a 'stop' kind of way she'll say something like 'not right now'.
forget the corny lines. TAKE CONTROL.
when you turn it around and put her on the hot seat you're back in control. and ultimately women want a man who's in control.
and she won't expect it. when men are horny women are use to them responding like idiots or with corny comeback lines. show her you still have your cognitive senses about you and take control. she'll give up on trying to win you with mere attraction and f*ck your brains out to conquor you.
J
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.