wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I'd bail, and dissappear for weeks. See if she chases.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girl bringing up other date
- Thread starter dk1990S111
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
How do you suggest doing that when she texts me first pretty often? lol unless youre being sarcastic
Rainman4707
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That's to much.
I agree with the others. She's just doing a simple sh*t test. My advice is be indifferent.
BeExcellent
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Be indifferent. She's not married to you, not your LTR & owes you nothing.
Just listen to what she says. Observe what she does. Are these thing congruent?
Banter about other dates is fairly normal. It is a form of social proof (evidence that someone else has interest.) She's with you so who cares.
Getting jealous & nexting over this is for rank amateurs who are not used to attractive women.
Mentioning other dates is a form of qualifying oneself to the other person.
I have news. Men do this All. The. Time. too.
The response is the same. Understand the other person is qualifying or social proofing to try to impress you. I always have fun with this type behavior if a date does this. It's an opportunity to put someone on the spot a little bit & get insights you might not otherwise get right out of the gate.
Just listen to what she says. Observe what she does. Are these thing congruent?
Banter about other dates is fairly normal. It is a form of social proof (evidence that someone else has interest.) She's with you so who cares.
Getting jealous & nexting over this is for rank amateurs who are not used to attractive women.
Mentioning other dates is a form of qualifying oneself to the other person.
I have news. Men do this All. The. Time. too.
The response is the same. Understand the other person is qualifying or social proofing to try to impress you. I always have fun with this type behavior if a date does this. It's an opportunity to put someone on the spot a little bit & get insights you might not otherwise get right out of the gate.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
You chained to your phone, like everyone else? Is no DJ.
If she's not behaving...leave!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Manofrefinedtastes
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I'm wondering if she's ****ing the other guy, but wants to keep you as a backup. She gives the 'no chemistry, but, I'm being forced to go out with him, but, it's you I really love" kind of thing, in case somebody sees her with him and could report back to you.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
SmooveMooves
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Indifference. When women talk about other men or dates it doesn't interest me, so I act accordingly.
EyeBRollin
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**** tests don't happen when a woman is head over heels in love with you. You're in the danger zone buddy. Keep your cool and tighten the ship.
dk1990S111
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Ya I really just don't know what to think. Seems almost like she wants to keep her distance because there is a good chance I might move in a year or so. Went out with her last night and kinda told her that the benefit of staying in LA is that I wont have to deal with paying for trucking out the stuff I import to another state. She starts saying how I can just hire a logistics company. Could tell she was kinda losing her cool about it, like she was saying something she didnt want to say
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.