wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I'd bail, and dissappear for weeks. See if she chases.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girl bringing up other date
- Thread starter dk1990S111
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
How do you suggest doing that when she texts me first pretty often? lol unless youre being sarcastic
Rainman4707
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That's to much.
I agree with the others. She's just doing a simple sh*t test. My advice is be indifferent.
BeExcellent
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Be indifferent. She's not married to you, not your LTR & owes you nothing.
Just listen to what she says. Observe what she does. Are these thing congruent?
Banter about other dates is fairly normal. It is a form of social proof (evidence that someone else has interest.) She's with you so who cares.
Getting jealous & nexting over this is for rank amateurs who are not used to attractive women.
Mentioning other dates is a form of qualifying oneself to the other person.
I have news. Men do this All. The. Time. too.
The response is the same. Understand the other person is qualifying or social proofing to try to impress you. I always have fun with this type behavior if a date does this. It's an opportunity to put someone on the spot a little bit & get insights you might not otherwise get right out of the gate.
Just listen to what she says. Observe what she does. Are these thing congruent?
Banter about other dates is fairly normal. It is a form of social proof (evidence that someone else has interest.) She's with you so who cares.
Getting jealous & nexting over this is for rank amateurs who are not used to attractive women.
Mentioning other dates is a form of qualifying oneself to the other person.
I have news. Men do this All. The. Time. too.
The response is the same. Understand the other person is qualifying or social proofing to try to impress you. I always have fun with this type behavior if a date does this. It's an opportunity to put someone on the spot a little bit & get insights you might not otherwise get right out of the gate.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
You chained to your phone, like everyone else? Is no DJ.
If she's not behaving...leave!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Manofrefinedtastes
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I'm wondering if she's ****ing the other guy, but wants to keep you as a backup. She gives the 'no chemistry, but, I'm being forced to go out with him, but, it's you I really love" kind of thing, in case somebody sees her with him and could report back to you.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
Indifference. When women talk about other men or dates it doesn't interest me, so I act accordingly.
EyeBRollin
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**** tests don't happen when a woman is head over heels in love with you. You're in the danger zone buddy. Keep your cool and tighten the ship.
dk1990S111
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Ya I really just don't know what to think. Seems almost like she wants to keep her distance because there is a good chance I might move in a year or so. Went out with her last night and kinda told her that the benefit of staying in LA is that I wont have to deal with paying for trucking out the stuff I import to another state. She starts saying how I can just hire a logistics company. Could tell she was kinda losing her cool about it, like she was saying something she didnt want to say
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.