wifehunter
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I'd bail, and dissappear for weeks. See if she chases.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Girl bringing up other date
- Thread starter dk1990S111
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
How do you suggest doing that when she texts me first pretty often? lol unless youre being sarcastic
Rainman4707
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That's to much.
I agree with the others. She's just doing a simple sh*t test. My advice is be indifferent.
BeExcellent
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Be indifferent. She's not married to you, not your LTR & owes you nothing.
Just listen to what she says. Observe what she does. Are these thing congruent?
Banter about other dates is fairly normal. It is a form of social proof (evidence that someone else has interest.) She's with you so who cares.
Getting jealous & nexting over this is for rank amateurs who are not used to attractive women.
Mentioning other dates is a form of qualifying oneself to the other person.
I have news. Men do this All. The. Time. too.
The response is the same. Understand the other person is qualifying or social proofing to try to impress you. I always have fun with this type behavior if a date does this. It's an opportunity to put someone on the spot a little bit & get insights you might not otherwise get right out of the gate.
Just listen to what she says. Observe what she does. Are these thing congruent?
Banter about other dates is fairly normal. It is a form of social proof (evidence that someone else has interest.) She's with you so who cares.
Getting jealous & nexting over this is for rank amateurs who are not used to attractive women.
Mentioning other dates is a form of qualifying oneself to the other person.
I have news. Men do this All. The. Time. too.
The response is the same. Understand the other person is qualifying or social proofing to try to impress you. I always have fun with this type behavior if a date does this. It's an opportunity to put someone on the spot a little bit & get insights you might not otherwise get right out of the gate.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
You chained to your phone, like everyone else? Is no DJ.
If she's not behaving...leave!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Manofrefinedtastes
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I'm wondering if she's ****ing the other guy, but wants to keep you as a backup. She gives the 'no chemistry, but, I'm being forced to go out with him, but, it's you I really love" kind of thing, in case somebody sees her with him and could report back to you.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
SmooveMooves
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Indifference. When women talk about other men or dates it doesn't interest me, so I act accordingly.
EyeBRollin
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**** tests don't happen when a woman is head over heels in love with you. You're in the danger zone buddy. Keep your cool and tighten the ship.
dk1990S111
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Ya I really just don't know what to think. Seems almost like she wants to keep her distance because there is a good chance I might move in a year or so. Went out with her last night and kinda told her that the benefit of staying in LA is that I wont have to deal with paying for trucking out the stuff I import to another state. She starts saying how I can just hire a logistics company. Could tell she was kinda losing her cool about it, like she was saying something she didnt want to say
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.