dk1990S111
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Brought up this date but says there was no chemistry. Obviously a **** test but how should you react when she brings it up? Indifferent?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl bringing up other date
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dk1990S111
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Just told me he works for some rich guy and that he invited her to an event that is today, saw a picture on her fb. Not worried about it since she said there was no chemistry and they'd just be friends, just seemed kinda weird.
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Just cheap talk, but I think she did it to lightly test you. Anything other than a smile and you're ****ed because this is simple testing LOL
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This is what I have done to women that bring up other men after I have been on a few dates. I tell them to knock it off or I will spank their ass. Yes I have spanked some asses and it changed their attitude.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I would just ignore and go radio silent during the day of the event. If she texts you, give her the old "I'm super busy with friends right now, catch up later" and then don't respond back till the next day.
When they know you're mind games are better than theirs, they knock that shyte off really quick.
When they know you're mind games are better than theirs, they knock that shyte off really quick.
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If there was no chemistry, why would you want to hang out with her again?
dk1990S111
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Lol no chemistry with the other guy
What do her actions say. Her mouth says there was no chemistry but that is what she believes you want to hear.
What are her actions saying? Is she showing interest in you. Is she responding positive to you.
If the IOIs are good, who cares what she says.
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AKA "I dont like him like that, but I'll keep him around as an orbiter."
I'm not sure the entire context, but I would have definitely would've said something regarding keeping this guy around.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Heheh. In the past I've said he sounds like a nice guy maybe you should give him another chance. And then just stare at the most attractive girl in the room for a couple of seconds and then change the topic. If she doesn't get that hint she's too stupid for my tastes.
QuadDeuces
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Just crack a sarcastic joke and change the subject.
Be indifferent about it, it makes you appear alpha, so what she is dating other men, you're dating other girls, and are busy with fulfilling your life purpose. If you start acting butthurt that a plate is also spinning her own plates, you're gonna lose.
Be indifferent about it, it makes you appear alpha, so what she is dating other men, you're dating other girls, and are busy with fulfilling your life purpose. If you start acting butthurt that a plate is also spinning her own plates, you're gonna lose.
She mentioned him and the word chemistry in the same sentence - watch out.
That's like saying "I'm not going to chop you with an axe." Makes you wonder.
Watch her emotions - she will act unusually happy or sad when she reads his texts once she falls for him. A sign of infidelity.
Regarding women hanging out with new friends, think about it - before she met you she met 200,000 people. She still liked you. She'll meet another 200,000 people and will still like you. Let her have space.
Anyhow, think she needs chemistry if he's rich?
That's like saying "I'm not going to chop you with an axe." Makes you wonder.
Watch her emotions - she will act unusually happy or sad when she reads his texts once she falls for him. A sign of infidelity.
Regarding women hanging out with new friends, think about it - before she met you she met 200,000 people. She still liked you. She'll meet another 200,000 people and will still like you. Let her have space.
Anyhow, think she needs chemistry if he's rich?
Does this apply if your dream girl says she has BPD?
Tell her about a girl you banged last night and say there's no chemistry
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
JohnChops
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Clearly used it as a **** test. If you reacted, you lost, if you acted like it didn't matter , you passed. If a girl does that, but she's interested I just tell her to go, who cares in the end? It's my own test. If she goes, she wasn't interested , but 9/10 times she will not go.
dk1990S111
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Alright sounds like the way I handled it was ok then. Just let her talk and didn't act jealous at all, just told her it sounds like it should be fun and carried on the convo. Not mad or anything was just weird to me, telling me about a date but also saying there wasnt chemistry.
I would say always pay attention to the actions no matter what
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