dk1990S111
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Brought up this date but says there was no chemistry. Obviously a **** test but how should you react when she brings it up? Indifferent?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Girl bringing up other date
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
dk1990S111
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Just told me he works for some rich guy and that he invited her to an event that is today, saw a picture on her fb. Not worried about it since she said there was no chemistry and they'd just be friends, just seemed kinda weird.
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Just cheap talk, but I think she did it to lightly test you. Anything other than a smile and you're ****ed because this is simple testing LOL
dustmuffin
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This is what I have done to women that bring up other men after I have been on a few dates. I tell them to knock it off or I will spank their ass. Yes I have spanked some asses and it changed their attitude.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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I would just ignore and go radio silent during the day of the event. If she texts you, give her the old "I'm super busy with friends right now, catch up later" and then don't respond back till the next day.
When they know you're mind games are better than theirs, they knock that shyte off really quick.
When they know you're mind games are better than theirs, they knock that shyte off really quick.
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If there was no chemistry, why would you want to hang out with her again?
dk1990S111
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Lol no chemistry with the other guy
What do her actions say. Her mouth says there was no chemistry but that is what she believes you want to hear.
What are her actions saying? Is she showing interest in you. Is she responding positive to you.
If the IOIs are good, who cares what she says.
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AKA "I dont like him like that, but I'll keep him around as an orbiter."
I'm not sure the entire context, but I would have definitely would've said something regarding keeping this guy around.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Heheh. In the past I've said he sounds like a nice guy maybe you should give him another chance. And then just stare at the most attractive girl in the room for a couple of seconds and then change the topic. If she doesn't get that hint she's too stupid for my tastes.
QuadDeuces
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Just crack a sarcastic joke and change the subject.
Be indifferent about it, it makes you appear alpha, so what she is dating other men, you're dating other girls, and are busy with fulfilling your life purpose. If you start acting butthurt that a plate is also spinning her own plates, you're gonna lose.
Be indifferent about it, it makes you appear alpha, so what she is dating other men, you're dating other girls, and are busy with fulfilling your life purpose. If you start acting butthurt that a plate is also spinning her own plates, you're gonna lose.
She mentioned him and the word chemistry in the same sentence - watch out.
That's like saying "I'm not going to chop you with an axe." Makes you wonder.
Watch her emotions - she will act unusually happy or sad when she reads his texts once she falls for him. A sign of infidelity.
Regarding women hanging out with new friends, think about it - before she met you she met 200,000 people. She still liked you. She'll meet another 200,000 people and will still like you. Let her have space.
Anyhow, think she needs chemistry if he's rich?
That's like saying "I'm not going to chop you with an axe." Makes you wonder.
Watch her emotions - she will act unusually happy or sad when she reads his texts once she falls for him. A sign of infidelity.
Regarding women hanging out with new friends, think about it - before she met you she met 200,000 people. She still liked you. She'll meet another 200,000 people and will still like you. Let her have space.
Anyhow, think she needs chemistry if he's rich?
Does this apply if your dream girl says she has BPD?
Tell her about a girl you banged last night and say there's no chemistry
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Clearly used it as a **** test. If you reacted, you lost, if you acted like it didn't matter , you passed. If a girl does that, but she's interested I just tell her to go, who cares in the end? It's my own test. If she goes, she wasn't interested , but 9/10 times she will not go.
dk1990S111
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Alright sounds like the way I handled it was ok then. Just let her talk and didn't act jealous at all, just told her it sounds like it should be fun and carried on the convo. Not mad or anything was just weird to me, telling me about a date but also saying there wasnt chemistry.
I would say always pay attention to the actions no matter what
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.