"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl at work (not as lame as it sounds, I promise you)

EdHunter

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Hey guys. I haven't been around in a little while, and I've been doing all right, but I need some outside input on a situation at work (McDonald's).
It's a pretty standard HB showing high interest, and I've been wanting to ask her out, but I don't want to **** up my work situation.

Here's the thing: She put in her two week's notice recently (nothing to do w/ me). My idea was that I could have my cake and eat it too, by just flirting w/ her and keeping it light for two weeks, then go for her a little while after she quits. That said, I don't want to spin my wheels for too long and have her lose interest. Thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mpimpin

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Your title is misleading...it is as lame as it sounds. Don't make excuses. Like Nike said...Just Do It
 

jesusrules

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two weeks notice? thats good for you. what I would suggest is go out and buy a movie or something and ask her the next time you see her if she would like to go to your house and watch it. invite her to go hang out. the way you need to think is if you end up f*cking up most likely you wont see her agin plus she has two more weeks at mcdonalds. try it, cause im pretty sure you wont see her again after she doesnt work there anymore. good luck I hope you get her. now next time I go to mcdonalds get me some free stuff...j/k.
 

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You broke your promise.

My vote goes to: just ask her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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EdHunter

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Spade---Ouch! But yeah, you're right.

Anyway, I went for it, didn't work, and after next week I don't have to see her again, so whatever. But as always, thanks for galvanizing me into action, 'twas much appreciated.
 

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EdHunter said:
Spade---Ouch! But yeah, you're right.

Anyway, I went for it, didn't work, and after next week I don't have to see her again, so whatever. But as always, thanks for galvanizing me into action, 'twas much appreciated.
So what exactly happened?
 

Spade_1

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Hey, atleast you gave it a shot and don't have to wonder about the whole "what-if" thing. Even better is you probally won't see her much so no akwardness and in a few weeks prolly won't remember her.

So.....just out of curiosity what did happen?
 

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As most of the people say, just do it. You got no reason to wait, nor there is ever any reason to wait, you see a women you want, you take her,thats how it is.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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EdHunter

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TheVirtualMind said:
So what exactly happened?
Not much...I waited until she was alone, and we weren't overly stressed, and asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime...she responded by saying she already had to hang out with 20 people this summer---a really bad blowoff, if I've ever seen one. So I spun the conversation quickly into fluff talk, and ended with a moderate amount of dignity. She's still pretty friendly, but maybe just more flirty than really interested.
 
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