"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl at work (not as lame as it sounds, I promise you)

EdHunter

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Hey guys. I haven't been around in a little while, and I've been doing all right, but I need some outside input on a situation at work (McDonald's).
It's a pretty standard HB showing high interest, and I've been wanting to ask her out, but I don't want to **** up my work situation.

Here's the thing: She put in her two week's notice recently (nothing to do w/ me). My idea was that I could have my cake and eat it too, by just flirting w/ her and keeping it light for two weeks, then go for her a little while after she quits. That said, I don't want to spin my wheels for too long and have her lose interest. Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mpimpin

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Your title is misleading...it is as lame as it sounds. Don't make excuses. Like Nike said...Just Do It
 

jesusrules

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two weeks notice? thats good for you. what I would suggest is go out and buy a movie or something and ask her the next time you see her if she would like to go to your house and watch it. invite her to go hang out. the way you need to think is if you end up f*cking up most likely you wont see her agin plus she has two more weeks at mcdonalds. try it, cause im pretty sure you wont see her again after she doesnt work there anymore. good luck I hope you get her. now next time I go to mcdonalds get me some free stuff...j/k.
 

Spade_1

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You broke your promise.

My vote goes to: just ask her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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EdHunter

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Spade---Ouch! But yeah, you're right.

Anyway, I went for it, didn't work, and after next week I don't have to see her again, so whatever. But as always, thanks for galvanizing me into action, 'twas much appreciated.
 

TheVirtualMind

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EdHunter said:
Spade---Ouch! But yeah, you're right.

Anyway, I went for it, didn't work, and after next week I don't have to see her again, so whatever. But as always, thanks for galvanizing me into action, 'twas much appreciated.
So what exactly happened?
 

Spade_1

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Hey, atleast you gave it a shot and don't have to wonder about the whole "what-if" thing. Even better is you probally won't see her much so no akwardness and in a few weeks prolly won't remember her.

So.....just out of curiosity what did happen?
 

shydude

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As most of the people say, just do it. You got no reason to wait, nor there is ever any reason to wait, you see a women you want, you take her,thats how it is.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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EdHunter

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TheVirtualMind said:
So what exactly happened?
Not much...I waited until she was alone, and we weren't overly stressed, and asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime...she responded by saying she already had to hang out with 20 people this summer---a really bad blowoff, if I've ever seen one. So I spun the conversation quickly into fluff talk, and ended with a moderate amount of dignity. She's still pretty friendly, but maybe just more flirty than really interested.
 
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