"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl at work (not as lame as it sounds, I promise you)

EdHunter

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Hey guys. I haven't been around in a little while, and I've been doing all right, but I need some outside input on a situation at work (McDonald's).
It's a pretty standard HB showing high interest, and I've been wanting to ask her out, but I don't want to **** up my work situation.

Here's the thing: She put in her two week's notice recently (nothing to do w/ me). My idea was that I could have my cake and eat it too, by just flirting w/ her and keeping it light for two weeks, then go for her a little while after she quits. That said, I don't want to spin my wheels for too long and have her lose interest. Thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mpimpin

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Your title is misleading...it is as lame as it sounds. Don't make excuses. Like Nike said...Just Do It
 

jesusrules

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two weeks notice? thats good for you. what I would suggest is go out and buy a movie or something and ask her the next time you see her if she would like to go to your house and watch it. invite her to go hang out. the way you need to think is if you end up f*cking up most likely you wont see her agin plus she has two more weeks at mcdonalds. try it, cause im pretty sure you wont see her again after she doesnt work there anymore. good luck I hope you get her. now next time I go to mcdonalds get me some free stuff...j/k.
 

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You broke your promise.

My vote goes to: just ask her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EdHunter

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Spade---Ouch! But yeah, you're right.

Anyway, I went for it, didn't work, and after next week I don't have to see her again, so whatever. But as always, thanks for galvanizing me into action, 'twas much appreciated.
 

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EdHunter said:
Spade---Ouch! But yeah, you're right.

Anyway, I went for it, didn't work, and after next week I don't have to see her again, so whatever. But as always, thanks for galvanizing me into action, 'twas much appreciated.
So what exactly happened?
 

Spade_1

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Hey, atleast you gave it a shot and don't have to wonder about the whole "what-if" thing. Even better is you probally won't see her much so no akwardness and in a few weeks prolly won't remember her.

So.....just out of curiosity what did happen?
 

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As most of the people say, just do it. You got no reason to wait, nor there is ever any reason to wait, you see a women you want, you take her,thats how it is.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheVirtualMind said:
So what exactly happened?
Not much...I waited until she was alone, and we weren't overly stressed, and asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime...she responded by saying she already had to hang out with 20 people this summer---a really bad blowoff, if I've ever seen one. So I spun the conversation quickly into fluff talk, and ended with a moderate amount of dignity. She's still pretty friendly, but maybe just more flirty than really interested.
 
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