"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl at work gave me number, I don't want it yet (?)

Steel Driver

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Alright guys here's a situation I'm hoping you can shed some light on.

I recently started a new job that I plan on staying at for a while, move up the corporate ladder and all that. There's this girl I work closely with who has been flirting with me on and off, and it's obvious to me she wants me to make a move. This weekend I'm going to a coworkers birthday party in which this girl will also be attending. Earlier today she told me how her class project partner didn't show up to their meeting yesterday and that if she had my cell number we could have done something until traffic died down. Later on she emailed me her cell number saying I should call her if I get lost on the way to this coworkers party. (It's some place local that I've been to before).

I'm well familiar with the phrase "don't dip your pen in the company ink" and have been burned in the past doing that. I'm focusing on other things right now and don't feel the need to pursue this much further. How would you handle this situation? Is there a way for me to keep the possibility open with her in the future?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MCristo

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It's not like you have to do anything with her
 

ZenGodMod

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cunning how she gave you her number. makes it seem just a genuine concern for her co-workers well being. If you get lost do call, ask directions.

MCristo is right. You know that thing between your legs, it's you who chooses where to stick it.
 

Prodigy746

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How hot is she?? How important is this job to you??? How much money are you making?? These questions are important for you to determine if its worth it or not.

I am supervisor now in a well known company now and dont even take any numbers from girls. I started of as a part timer and at one poin i had a phone number of every white girl that worked for the company and some black girls. I recently had a girl ask me out and offered her number but i told her i couldnt take it because i was supervisor. Hard thing to do but i love my job and the pay that comes with it.
 

Warrior74

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No girls at work. make it a rule. especially if you plan on staying there and moving up the ladder. don't **** where you eat.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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tick37

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Hey, if you can get this girl, who knows better than to hook up with a coworker, then you can find another one. Drop this drama and look for a woman outside of work.Trust me...I know what I'm talking about.

Trust me!
 

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Thanks guys, I guess I'm pretty much SOL with this chick. Any tips on stopping this from escalating while keeping it friendly? (I'm well versed in how to handle this in an unfriendly way).
 
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