"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girl at work gave me number, I don't want it yet (?)

Steel Driver

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Alright guys here's a situation I'm hoping you can shed some light on.

I recently started a new job that I plan on staying at for a while, move up the corporate ladder and all that. There's this girl I work closely with who has been flirting with me on and off, and it's obvious to me she wants me to make a move. This weekend I'm going to a coworkers birthday party in which this girl will also be attending. Earlier today she told me how her class project partner didn't show up to their meeting yesterday and that if she had my cell number we could have done something until traffic died down. Later on she emailed me her cell number saying I should call her if I get lost on the way to this coworkers party. (It's some place local that I've been to before).

I'm well familiar with the phrase "don't dip your pen in the company ink" and have been burned in the past doing that. I'm focusing on other things right now and don't feel the need to pursue this much further. How would you handle this situation? Is there a way for me to keep the possibility open with her in the future?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MCristo

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It's not like you have to do anything with her
 

ZenGodMod

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cunning how she gave you her number. makes it seem just a genuine concern for her co-workers well being. If you get lost do call, ask directions.

MCristo is right. You know that thing between your legs, it's you who chooses where to stick it.
 

Prodigy746

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How hot is she?? How important is this job to you??? How much money are you making?? These questions are important for you to determine if its worth it or not.

I am supervisor now in a well known company now and dont even take any numbers from girls. I started of as a part timer and at one poin i had a phone number of every white girl that worked for the company and some black girls. I recently had a girl ask me out and offered her number but i told her i couldnt take it because i was supervisor. Hard thing to do but i love my job and the pay that comes with it.
 

Warrior74

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No girls at work. make it a rule. especially if you plan on staying there and moving up the ladder. don't **** where you eat.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tick37

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Hey, if you can get this girl, who knows better than to hook up with a coworker, then you can find another one. Drop this drama and look for a woman outside of work.Trust me...I know what I'm talking about.

Trust me!
 

Steel Driver

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Thanks guys, I guess I'm pretty much SOL with this chick. Any tips on stopping this from escalating while keeping it friendly? (I'm well versed in how to handle this in an unfriendly way).
 
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