"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl at work gave me number, I don't want it yet (?)

Steel Driver

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Alright guys here's a situation I'm hoping you can shed some light on.

I recently started a new job that I plan on staying at for a while, move up the corporate ladder and all that. There's this girl I work closely with who has been flirting with me on and off, and it's obvious to me she wants me to make a move. This weekend I'm going to a coworkers birthday party in which this girl will also be attending. Earlier today she told me how her class project partner didn't show up to their meeting yesterday and that if she had my cell number we could have done something until traffic died down. Later on she emailed me her cell number saying I should call her if I get lost on the way to this coworkers party. (It's some place local that I've been to before).

I'm well familiar with the phrase "don't dip your pen in the company ink" and have been burned in the past doing that. I'm focusing on other things right now and don't feel the need to pursue this much further. How would you handle this situation? Is there a way for me to keep the possibility open with her in the future?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MCristo

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It's not like you have to do anything with her
 

ZenGodMod

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cunning how she gave you her number. makes it seem just a genuine concern for her co-workers well being. If you get lost do call, ask directions.

MCristo is right. You know that thing between your legs, it's you who chooses where to stick it.
 

Prodigy746

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How hot is she?? How important is this job to you??? How much money are you making?? These questions are important for you to determine if its worth it or not.

I am supervisor now in a well known company now and dont even take any numbers from girls. I started of as a part timer and at one poin i had a phone number of every white girl that worked for the company and some black girls. I recently had a girl ask me out and offered her number but i told her i couldnt take it because i was supervisor. Hard thing to do but i love my job and the pay that comes with it.
 

Warrior74

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No girls at work. make it a rule. especially if you plan on staying there and moving up the ladder. don't **** where you eat.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tick37

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Hey, if you can get this girl, who knows better than to hook up with a coworker, then you can find another one. Drop this drama and look for a woman outside of work.Trust me...I know what I'm talking about.

Trust me!
 

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Thanks guys, I guess I'm pretty much SOL with this chick. Any tips on stopping this from escalating while keeping it friendly? (I'm well versed in how to handle this in an unfriendly way).
 
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