it's not like me to come on here and ask how to go about "getting" a girl, usually i come here to read the tips and give my opinion. however, there is a girl that works at the front desk at my gym and is clearly interested in me, she gives many noteable IOI's. we have had very small talk, nothing major at all, i just need a good opener or something to let her know i am also interested. the longer i wait the harder it is going to get. it is hard because sometimes there are many girls and customers at the desk, so she is busy. i thought about something like this; "hey, i never get a chance to talk to you, so why don't u take a break soon and come out and talk to me in the gym"... give me some tips.
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the more you think about it the harder it becomes. If she is giving you these IOI as you say and they are real, then she won't care what you say. Imagine a girl you're interested in asking you out, would it matter what was coming out of her mouth? But what you have in mind for saying sounds pretty good to me.
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I work at a gym. Next time you see her, make small talk, and either acknowledge that she is very busy at the time, or say you gotta go work out and have things to do. Then hand her a paper and TELL her to give you her email, then to write her number.
If you get pass that, don't call her until either she brings it up you not calling yet and/or you have a little short convo. Kinda like a little surprise.
If you get pass that, don't call her until either she brings it up you not calling yet and/or you have a little short convo. Kinda like a little surprise.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Wrong. Girls that work at the front desk come and go, specially if its a large chain like Bally's, 24 Hour, etc. The turnover is so high. They rarely last long, and they usually have the same shift, etc.bman said:i stay away from that, i had bad experiences dating girls at the gym. it makes it awkward because you have to see her all the time no matter what.
Front desk girls are used to getting hip up by all kinds of dudes. Old creepy dude, young stocker types, nerds, guys with no game, etc., so they usually won't flirt with you if there isn't some interest, because they know the chances of creating a stocker are high.
It would be more of a concern if you are trying to hook up with a girl who's a regular member.
Just ask for the number and get it going, otherwise, when you least expect it, she will no longer be working there.
great advice! i have to do it soon, just discouraging when there are many workers behind the desk, and they are busy, etc.Gangster Of Love said:Wrong. Girls that work at the front desk come and go, specially if its a large chain like Bally's, 24 Hour, etc. The turnover is so high. They rarely last long, and they usually have the same shift, etc.
Front desk girls are used to getting hip up by all kinds of dudes. Old creepy dude, young stocker types, nerds, guys with no game, etc., so they usually won't flirt with you if there isn't some interest, because they know the chances of creating a stocker are high.
It would be more of a concern if you are trying to hook up with a girl who's a regular member.
Just ask for the number and get it going, otherwise, when you least expect it, she will no longer be working there.