it's not like me to come on here and ask how to go about "getting" a girl, usually i come here to read the tips and give my opinion. however, there is a girl that works at the front desk at my gym and is clearly interested in me, she gives many noteable IOI's. we have had very small talk, nothing major at all, i just need a good opener or something to let her know i am also interested. the longer i wait the harder it is going to get. it is hard because sometimes there are many girls and customers at the desk, so she is busy. i thought about something like this; "hey, i never get a chance to talk to you, so why don't u take a break soon and come out and talk to me in the gym"... give me some tips.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
girl at the front desk
- Thread starter swaptrex
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
the more you think about it the harder it becomes. If she is giving you these IOI as you say and they are real, then she won't care what you say. Imagine a girl you're interested in asking you out, would it matter what was coming out of her mouth? But what you have in mind for saying sounds pretty good to me.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
I work at a gym. Next time you see her, make small talk, and either acknowledge that she is very busy at the time, or say you gotta go work out and have things to do. Then hand her a paper and TELL her to give you her email, then to write her number.
If you get pass that, don't call her until either she brings it up you not calling yet and/or you have a little short convo. Kinda like a little surprise.
If you get pass that, don't call her until either she brings it up you not calling yet and/or you have a little short convo. Kinda like a little surprise.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Wrong. Girls that work at the front desk come and go, specially if its a large chain like Bally's, 24 Hour, etc. The turnover is so high. They rarely last long, and they usually have the same shift, etc.bman said:i stay away from that, i had bad experiences dating girls at the gym. it makes it awkward because you have to see her all the time no matter what.
Front desk girls are used to getting hip up by all kinds of dudes. Old creepy dude, young stocker types, nerds, guys with no game, etc., so they usually won't flirt with you if there isn't some interest, because they know the chances of creating a stocker are high.
It would be more of a concern if you are trying to hook up with a girl who's a regular member.
Just ask for the number and get it going, otherwise, when you least expect it, she will no longer be working there.
great advice! i have to do it soon, just discouraging when there are many workers behind the desk, and they are busy, etc.Gangster Of Love said:Wrong. Girls that work at the front desk come and go, specially if its a large chain like Bally's, 24 Hour, etc. The turnover is so high. They rarely last long, and they usually have the same shift, etc.
Front desk girls are used to getting hip up by all kinds of dudes. Old creepy dude, young stocker types, nerds, guys with no game, etc., so they usually won't flirt with you if there isn't some interest, because they know the chances of creating a stocker are high.
It would be more of a concern if you are trying to hook up with a girl who's a regular member.
Just ask for the number and get it going, otherwise, when you least expect it, she will no longer be working there.