it's not like me to come on here and ask how to go about "getting" a girl, usually i come here to read the tips and give my opinion. however, there is a girl that works at the front desk at my gym and is clearly interested in me, she gives many noteable IOI's. we have had very small talk, nothing major at all, i just need a good opener or something to let her know i am also interested. the longer i wait the harder it is going to get. it is hard because sometimes there are many girls and customers at the desk, so she is busy. i thought about something like this; "hey, i never get a chance to talk to you, so why don't u take a break soon and come out and talk to me in the gym"... give me some tips.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
the more you think about it the harder it becomes. If she is giving you these IOI as you say and they are real, then she won't care what you say. Imagine a girl you're interested in asking you out, would it matter what was coming out of her mouth? But what you have in mind for saying sounds pretty good to me.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
I work at a gym. Next time you see her, make small talk, and either acknowledge that she is very busy at the time, or say you gotta go work out and have things to do. Then hand her a paper and TELL her to give you her email, then to write her number.
If you get pass that, don't call her until either she brings it up you not calling yet and/or you have a little short convo. Kinda like a little surprise.
If you get pass that, don't call her until either she brings it up you not calling yet and/or you have a little short convo. Kinda like a little surprise.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Wrong. Girls that work at the front desk come and go, specially if its a large chain like Bally's, 24 Hour, etc. The turnover is so high. They rarely last long, and they usually have the same shift, etc.bman said:i stay away from that, i had bad experiences dating girls at the gym. it makes it awkward because you have to see her all the time no matter what.
Front desk girls are used to getting hip up by all kinds of dudes. Old creepy dude, young stocker types, nerds, guys with no game, etc., so they usually won't flirt with you if there isn't some interest, because they know the chances of creating a stocker are high.
It would be more of a concern if you are trying to hook up with a girl who's a regular member.
Just ask for the number and get it going, otherwise, when you least expect it, she will no longer be working there.
great advice! i have to do it soon, just discouraging when there are many workers behind the desk, and they are busy, etc.Gangster Of Love said:Wrong. Girls that work at the front desk come and go, specially if its a large chain like Bally's, 24 Hour, etc. The turnover is so high. They rarely last long, and they usually have the same shift, etc.
Front desk girls are used to getting hip up by all kinds of dudes. Old creepy dude, young stocker types, nerds, guys with no game, etc., so they usually won't flirt with you if there isn't some interest, because they know the chances of creating a stocker are high.
It would be more of a concern if you are trying to hook up with a girl who's a regular member.
Just ask for the number and get it going, otherwise, when you least expect it, she will no longer be working there.