"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok, so I need some opinions. Is it weird/ against the rules for a girl to ask a guy out? I've known this guy for a year or so and he's really shy. He seems to disappear when I'm around (We're neighbors/I watch his sisters sometimes). I'm pretty sure he likes me too. I'm outgoing, but I've never made the first move before. I've hinted, but sometimes I think boys are a little dense (no offense). As former AFC's, do you think it's okay to ask him to out/go do something? Idk, I feel embarrassed.. because I don't want to be rejected either. Ugh, thanks in advance!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Haha it's totally OK! Most of us here wish things like this happened more often! I wish girls had asked me out in my shy teenager years :( Actually they tried but I was quite stupid ;)

Question is of course how you find him attractive if you say he's "AFC". But hey maybe you'll teach him a thing or two...
 
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It's not weird, I tend to get it a lot since I'm generally in a LTR recently so I just flirt a little and enjoy a girl's company when I meet her but don't have any real incling to take it further because I'm happy with my girlfriend. It usually ends up with her getting my number and asking me to meet up again, I don't find it weird at all - in fact I feel quite flattered by it and I'm sure most guys would love it.
 
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He most likely won't say no unless you're really unattractive.

I miss the days when girls used to ask me out...life was so easy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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