"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl Asked Me Out, But...

MountainSlide

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So I was talking with this girl at work over the past week (she doesn't work there - customer), and then she asks me to come out drinking with her lol, and says that her boyfriend is paying for everything.

Seems a little messed up from my experiences; girls with boyfriends typically don't invite single men out. Maybe I just have a great personality and she wants to hook me up with her friends?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've had this happen with women who have boyfriends and husbands.

Most of these women just want the validation and to feel like they have options when (not if) their current relationship implodes.
 

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I agree with Neil.

If she invited you out with her, its a date.

Since she invited her out with her and her boyfriend, its just weird.

If you're bored and just want something to do get into, it might not be a bad idea to meet up with them for a drink. Maybe ask who else is coming. She could have hot friends, she may be looking to monkey branch and if you show up and be fun and chill, might come knocking on your door later down the road.

That being said.....It could have some benefits as long as you go there not expecting anything but a couple drinks and laughs. It could be a quick way to expand your social circle and pick up a lay or two from it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If she liked you she would keep her boyfriend a secret.

"No group dates" Coach Corey Wayne
 

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^^^^^

agree again, but if you are out and about already and the BF is buying drinks, it doesnt hurt anything to stop by and see whats up. This chick could have several hit-able single friends that show up.

With the right expectations, this could be all to gain and nothing to lose.
 

MountainSlide

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^^^^^

agree again, but if you are out and about already and the BF is buying drinks, it doesn't hurt anything to stop by and see whats up. This chick could have several hit-able single friends that show up.

With the right expectations, this could be all to gain and nothing to lose.
I totally agree, but it seemed like when she first mentioned him, it was by accident. She says "my boyfriend" then instantly stops herself and says "or sort of boyfriend" -- "Kind of made it official the other day" -- "But he doesn't seem to care much" -- "Oh well, we'll see if he messages me later tonight" -- "not that I really care"

There are going to be other people there though. Other friends. I already decided that I would go. I am bringing a wingman and we are going to g'ter done.
 
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