"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl Asked Me Out, But...

MountainSlide

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So I was talking with this girl at work over the past week (she doesn't work there - customer), and then she asks me to come out drinking with her lol, and says that her boyfriend is paying for everything.

Seems a little messed up from my experiences; girls with boyfriends typically don't invite single men out. Maybe I just have a great personality and she wants to hook me up with her friends?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I've had this happen with women who have boyfriends and husbands.

Most of these women just want the validation and to feel like they have options when (not if) their current relationship implodes.
 

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I agree with Neil.

If she invited you out with her, its a date.

Since she invited her out with her and her boyfriend, its just weird.

If you're bored and just want something to do get into, it might not be a bad idea to meet up with them for a drink. Maybe ask who else is coming. She could have hot friends, she may be looking to monkey branch and if you show up and be fun and chill, might come knocking on your door later down the road.

That being said.....It could have some benefits as long as you go there not expecting anything but a couple drinks and laughs. It could be a quick way to expand your social circle and pick up a lay or two from it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If she liked you she would keep her boyfriend a secret.

"No group dates" Coach Corey Wayne
 

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^^^^^

agree again, but if you are out and about already and the BF is buying drinks, it doesnt hurt anything to stop by and see whats up. This chick could have several hit-able single friends that show up.

With the right expectations, this could be all to gain and nothing to lose.
 

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^^^^^

agree again, but if you are out and about already and the BF is buying drinks, it doesn't hurt anything to stop by and see whats up. This chick could have several hit-able single friends that show up.

With the right expectations, this could be all to gain and nothing to lose.
I totally agree, but it seemed like when she first mentioned him, it was by accident. She says "my boyfriend" then instantly stops herself and says "or sort of boyfriend" -- "Kind of made it official the other day" -- "But he doesn't seem to care much" -- "Oh well, we'll see if he messages me later tonight" -- "not that I really care"

There are going to be other people there though. Other friends. I already decided that I would go. I am bringing a wingman and we are going to g'ter done.
 
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