"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl Asked Me Out, But...

MountainSlide

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So I was talking with this girl at work over the past week (she doesn't work there - customer), and then she asks me to come out drinking with her lol, and says that her boyfriend is paying for everything.

Seems a little messed up from my experiences; girls with boyfriends typically don't invite single men out. Maybe I just have a great personality and she wants to hook me up with her friends?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've had this happen with women who have boyfriends and husbands.

Most of these women just want the validation and to feel like they have options when (not if) their current relationship implodes.
 

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I agree with Neil.

If she invited you out with her, its a date.

Since she invited her out with her and her boyfriend, its just weird.

If you're bored and just want something to do get into, it might not be a bad idea to meet up with them for a drink. Maybe ask who else is coming. She could have hot friends, she may be looking to monkey branch and if you show up and be fun and chill, might come knocking on your door later down the road.

That being said.....It could have some benefits as long as you go there not expecting anything but a couple drinks and laughs. It could be a quick way to expand your social circle and pick up a lay or two from it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If she liked you she would keep her boyfriend a secret.

"No group dates" Coach Corey Wayne
 

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^^^^^

agree again, but if you are out and about already and the BF is buying drinks, it doesnt hurt anything to stop by and see whats up. This chick could have several hit-able single friends that show up.

With the right expectations, this could be all to gain and nothing to lose.
 

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^^^^^

agree again, but if you are out and about already and the BF is buying drinks, it doesn't hurt anything to stop by and see whats up. This chick could have several hit-able single friends that show up.

With the right expectations, this could be all to gain and nothing to lose.
I totally agree, but it seemed like when she first mentioned him, it was by accident. She says "my boyfriend" then instantly stops herself and says "or sort of boyfriend" -- "Kind of made it official the other day" -- "But he doesn't seem to care much" -- "Oh well, we'll see if he messages me later tonight" -- "not that I really care"

There are going to be other people there though. Other friends. I already decided that I would go. I am bringing a wingman and we are going to g'ter done.
 
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