Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lol gimme a breakPeeGee said:You need to set the frame of the relationship when it doesn't go your way. Tell her, seriously, how this makes you feel and that she needs to stop if you are going to stay in this relationship. If you do not snub this she will keep adding guys to her facebook until she forgets you even exist.
I think the smiley at the top of peegee's post says it all. Nuff saidready123 said:lol gimme a break
I would laugh my ass off along with the rest of the world if I heard some dude broke up with his girl because she added a guy to facebook
and sitting his girl down to have a serious talk about adding guys to facebook, I'd love to sit in on that, it would be pathetically hilarious
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
well lets see ... she is a human female young and cute so what makes you expect her to only be interested inn mating with you???? Yeh she is in a "relationship" with you but that means nothing as far as her carnal human nature is concerned..vagrant said:Tell me this is Sh*t is normal. I can't seem to tell when I'm f*ckin mad. It's a first too calling while her phone is off. :box:
this aint just about facbook.. he knows she is dding guy friends in real life he just didi not mention it in this post... He has not accepted that humans are not monogamous.. So he is trying to fight reality.. ultimately wasting his time and putting his access to her PU$$Y in certain jepardy..Thatfeel21 said:are you serious? you should NOT have a girlfriend if her having facebook guy friends makes you jealous
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.