"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girfriend adding a guy on Facebook
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BongDuy
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user43770
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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What type of insecure and kindergarten question is that? Girls add guys on facebook and myspace when they have boyfriends.... its normal, just like you add girls when you have a girlfriend. Its called having a social life. You are being a drama queen... im telling you uncensored.
trajhenkhet02
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However with that being said it's no big deal. It could be any reason. Just yesterday I had a random married female add me for a facebook game. Always be sure of the context.
Thatfeel21
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ready123
Master Don Juan
lol gimme a breakPeeGee said:
I would laugh my ass off along with the rest of the world if I heard some dude broke up with his girl because she added a guy to facebook
and sitting his girl down to have a serious talk about adding guys to facebook, I'd love to sit in on that, it would be pathetically hilarious
comic_relief
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wow... you have been here since 2006 and you are asking questions like that? You drunk or something?
comic_relief
comic_relief
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I think the smiley at the top of peegee's post says it all. Nuff saidready123 said:
comic_relief
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DonGorgon
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well lets see ... she is a human female young and cute so what makes you expect her to only be interested inn mating with you???? Yeh she is in a "relationship" with you but that means nothing as far as her carnal human nature is concerned..vagrant said:
What can you do? Well nothing..
Except add females to your facebook and real life which is what you should have been doing any way...lol You cant change her or control her.. All you can do is try and retain access to her PU$$Y for a cheap as possible for as long as possible...
DonGorgon
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this aint just about facbook.. he knows she is dding guy friends in real life he just didi not mention it in this post... He has not accepted that humans are not monogamous.. So he is trying to fight reality.. ultimately wasting his time and putting his access to her PU$$Y in certain jepardy..Thatfeel21 said:
Then, while you're in jail, when Abdul adds another little white fish to his repertoire, go up to that saggy pants ***** and his kufi-wearing daddy and slap the ****e out of them. DJ style. Real men die for this yo!
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Being in high demand makes them value you more. If there is another guy getting her attention, which this may be the case, him being in demand and having preselection will get her focus back no him.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.