Have known this girl a couple of months through mutual friends. We hit it off straight away and I knew she had high interest in me. Last friday we slept together and yesterday we had our first date. Now her birthday is this wednesday. Should I get her something or should I just call and wish her a happy birthday etc. I know she is into me but I am still playing the field;-) Anyway she is still to pass the DJ tests etc! So guys what should I do? My gut feeling is not a lot! I feel its far too early for soppy moments.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gifts?
- Thread starter Marco
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
get her somthing thoughtfull but cheap, do not spend a lot of money on her at this point
I wrote an article a while back on gifts for girls.
I have never had a positive experience giving a girl a gift. I went from #1 on their list to non-existent, all because i bought a gift.
I'm not sure how strong your game is, however i would suggest a happy birthday and then leave it at that!
I have never had a positive experience giving a girl a gift. I went from #1 on their list to non-existent, all because i bought a gift.
I'm not sure how strong your game is, however i would suggest a happy birthday and then leave it at that!
strong like bull
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just out of curiousity, by "slept together" you meant "had sex," right? or did you literally mean, slept together in the same bed?
if youve already slept together and the idea of regular sex has been established, its not so bad to give her a gift. its one thing if youre giving a thoughtful gift to a girl youre ****ing; its another thing to constantly shower a girl with attention and gifts, hoping that one day she'll let you get a taste.
that being said, thoughtful is the ticket. something inexpensive and from the heart will go much further than an expensive, impersonal item. as an example, a while back i gave a gift to a girl id been seeing for a while. she always treated me with respect, cooked for me, bought me a pair of nice pants, bought me drinks, food, and just treated me like a king. the gift was not for her birthday or anything , either. no holiday. just a reward for her good behavior. it was something i thought of one day, and knew she would love it.
so what was the gift? a cd i burned, filled to the brim with our favorite love/slow songs. these were songs that we always happened to be listening to during our more intimate moments. songs that popped up on the radio, that we played on the jukebox at our favorite restaurant and others that each of us have personally enjoyed.
she loved it and if anything, it only increased her attraction.
-SLB
if youve already slept together and the idea of regular sex has been established, its not so bad to give her a gift. its one thing if youre giving a thoughtful gift to a girl youre ****ing; its another thing to constantly shower a girl with attention and gifts, hoping that one day she'll let you get a taste.
that being said, thoughtful is the ticket. something inexpensive and from the heart will go much further than an expensive, impersonal item. as an example, a while back i gave a gift to a girl id been seeing for a while. she always treated me with respect, cooked for me, bought me a pair of nice pants, bought me drinks, food, and just treated me like a king. the gift was not for her birthday or anything , either. no holiday. just a reward for her good behavior. it was something i thought of one day, and knew she would love it.
so what was the gift? a cd i burned, filled to the brim with our favorite love/slow songs. these were songs that we always happened to be listening to during our more intimate moments. songs that popped up on the radio, that we played on the jukebox at our favorite restaurant and others that each of us have personally enjoyed.
she loved it and if anything, it only increased her attraction.
-SLB
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I've had mixed experience with gifts. If you're not dating, more often than not, you don't get the reaction you're hoping for.
I'd say that you should have a sense as to how she feels about you. If she thinks of you as a friend, giving a gift will be pointless. You most likely won't get anything in return, gift or otherwise. If she's got potential, the right gift can make a difference.
Don't spend more than $100. Less will be more. Also, here's a way to show her that you pay attention and are aware. Think of something she might have mentioned months ago. Something that she might not buy for herself but might like to have.
Stay away from: Jewelry, Lingere, Stuffed Animals, Flowers. Food gifts are only well-received if the girl doesn't worry about her weight all the time. It's better to get something that doesn't have a distinct romantic connotation to it.
Also, wrap it yourself. Don't use a gift bag. Use real wrapping paper and do it yourself. She'll be impressed. And no mushy cards either.
Giving a gift can also give you a hint as to whether or not she's got potential. Here are two extremes: I gave a girl a Christmas gift. She made a donation in my name to a charity. Nnnnkaaaay.... The other extreme: I gave a girl something for Christmas that she mentioned months before. She was impressed that A) I remembered and B) that I wrapped it myself. This resulted in out first PDA. After I returned from holiday vacation, she gave me a belated gift.
Finally, don't have any expectations. She's not expecting a gift so you shouldn't expect anything in return.
I'd say that you should have a sense as to how she feels about you. If she thinks of you as a friend, giving a gift will be pointless. You most likely won't get anything in return, gift or otherwise. If she's got potential, the right gift can make a difference.
Don't spend more than $100. Less will be more. Also, here's a way to show her that you pay attention and are aware. Think of something she might have mentioned months ago. Something that she might not buy for herself but might like to have.
Stay away from: Jewelry, Lingere, Stuffed Animals, Flowers. Food gifts are only well-received if the girl doesn't worry about her weight all the time. It's better to get something that doesn't have a distinct romantic connotation to it.
Also, wrap it yourself. Don't use a gift bag. Use real wrapping paper and do it yourself. She'll be impressed. And no mushy cards either.
Giving a gift can also give you a hint as to whether or not she's got potential. Here are two extremes: I gave a girl a Christmas gift. She made a donation in my name to a charity. Nnnnkaaaay.... The other extreme: I gave a girl something for Christmas that she mentioned months before. She was impressed that A) I remembered and B) that I wrapped it myself. This resulted in out first PDA. After I returned from holiday vacation, she gave me a belated gift.
Finally, don't have any expectations. She's not expecting a gift so you shouldn't expect anything in return.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.