happypcrepair
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my gf says she wants a kid. what do you think about this?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
do you want a kid? That's all that really matters. If you do then decide if you want to have one with her. If you don't then tell her that. One of 2 things will happen. 1, she'll respect that and not harass you about it. or (most likely) 2, she wants a kid bad and that'll be the end of your relationship. Sounds like her biological clock is ticking down.
WaterTiger
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Unless you want to get married & devote your life to her and raising a child, the only...ONLY thing you should say to her is:happypcrepair said:my gf says she wants a kid. what do you think about this?
GOODBYE!
If she wants to get pregnant...she will. Then you're stuck paying for it for the next 18 years.
happypcrepair
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Good point. Thanks guys.
How long have you been together? If it's a only a short while, there's a (small) chance it's just a test to see where you are on the whole thing. Otherwise, the advice everyone else gave you is spot on.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Guoy Darko
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You don't give a lot of information, now do you? How old are you? How old is she? How long have you been together? Do you want a kid yourself?
lol, I was joking dude.muscleman said:Don't wear 2 condoms, that's retarded.
Da Realist
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The question is does she want A baby or YOUR baby?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.