happypcrepair
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my gf says she wants a kid. what do you think about this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
do you want a kid? That's all that really matters. If you do then decide if you want to have one with her. If you don't then tell her that. One of 2 things will happen. 1, she'll respect that and not harass you about it. or (most likely) 2, she wants a kid bad and that'll be the end of your relationship. Sounds like her biological clock is ticking down.
WaterTiger
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Unless you want to get married & devote your life to her and raising a child, the only...ONLY thing you should say to her is:happypcrepair said:my gf says she wants a kid. what do you think about this?
GOODBYE!
If she wants to get pregnant...she will. Then you're stuck paying for it for the next 18 years.
happypcrepair
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Good point. Thanks guys.
How long have you been together? If it's a only a short while, there's a (small) chance it's just a test to see where you are on the whole thing. Otherwise, the advice everyone else gave you is spot on.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Guoy Darko
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You don't give a lot of information, now do you? How old are you? How old is she? How long have you been together? Do you want a kid yourself?
lol, I was joking dude.muscleman said:Don't wear 2 condoms, that's retarded.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
The question is does she want A baby or YOUR baby?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.