happypcrepair
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my gf says she wants a kid. what do you think about this?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
gf wants a kid
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
do you want a kid? That's all that really matters. If you do then decide if you want to have one with her. If you don't then tell her that. One of 2 things will happen. 1, she'll respect that and not harass you about it. or (most likely) 2, she wants a kid bad and that'll be the end of your relationship. Sounds like her biological clock is ticking down.
WaterTiger
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Unless you want to get married & devote your life to her and raising a child, the only...ONLY thing you should say to her is:happypcrepair said:my gf says she wants a kid. what do you think about this?
GOODBYE!
If she wants to get pregnant...she will. Then you're stuck paying for it for the next 18 years.
happypcrepair
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Good point. Thanks guys.
How long have you been together? If it's a only a short while, there's a (small) chance it's just a test to see where you are on the whole thing. Otherwise, the advice everyone else gave you is spot on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Guoy Darko
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You don't give a lot of information, now do you? How old are you? How old is she? How long have you been together? Do you want a kid yourself?
lol, I was joking dude.muscleman said:Don't wear 2 condoms, that's retarded.
Da Realist
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The question is does she want A baby or YOUR baby?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.