"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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GF is being disrespectful already.

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Pair A Dice said:
Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.

And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
 

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Desdinova said:
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.

And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
I wasn't really concerned about her not sticking around, we had a FB couple of times a week thing going on so she was sticking around, it was more of the fact i actually liked her. But, then realized she has no idea how to treat men, so fvck it. I ended it.
 

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I find that women generally expect you to be exclusive after a couple of months, although I've had a few exceptions to that rule.

There's some chicks out there who aren't marriage material, but are too enjoyable to throw away quickly. My last gf was like that. I wasn't highly attracted to her, but she was fun to date. After the 8th month, she started getting stupid with marriage, kids, and moving in after I had repeatedly told her I want none of that. At that point, she was getting to be a pain in the ass and had gotten fatter, so I ended it.

My current gf is a whole different story. I'm highly attracted to her, and I actually want to keep her around.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I noticed the same thing. Especially after you start to make it more then once a week. You usually get the "where are we going with this" or "what are we" questions.
 

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Desdinova said:
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.

And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?
 

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Does your husband post on the forum as well? You 'liked' her? Keep fvcking her without being locked down. She probably changed because you put a title on it.
First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.

Second, ive done all that already, Like i said fu*k buddies, FWB, whatever, I wanted a girlfriend so I got one. Wasnt happy with her, left....End of story
 

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Crissco said:
First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.

Second, ive done all that already, Like i said fu*k buddies, FWB, whatever, I wanted a girlfriend so I got one. Wasnt happy with her, left....End of story
Ease up. Just busting your balls. What made her girlfriend material?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Pair A Dice said:
Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?
Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.

I also need time to make sure she isn't a mess. Some women's red flags don't show up for months after you start dating. Once they start popping up and you don't like them, then get rid of her.

There's nothing wrong with giving a woman exclusivity if she's earned it.
 

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Desdinova said:
Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.

I also need time to make sure she isn't a mess. Some women's red flags don't show up for months after you start dating. Once they start popping up and you don't like them, then get rid of her.

There's nothing wrong with giving a woman exclusivity if she's earned it.
Couldnt of said it better my self, hit the nail on the head.
 
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