Pair A Dice
Don Juan
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Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cuz i liked her at the timePair A Dice said:Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.Pair A Dice said:Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
I wasn't really concerned about her not sticking around, we had a FB couple of times a week thing going on so she was sticking around, it was more of the fact i actually liked her. But, then realized she has no idea how to treat men, so fvck it. I ended it.Desdinova said:It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.
And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Does your husband post on the forum as well? You 'liked' her? Keep fvcking her without being locked down. She probably changed because you put a title on it.Crissco said:Cuz i liked her at the time
Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?Desdinova said:It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.
And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.Pair A Dice said:Does your husband post on the forum as well? You 'liked' her? Keep fvcking her without being locked down. She probably changed because you put a title on it.
Ease up. Just busting your balls. What made her girlfriend material?Crissco said:First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.
Second, ive done all that already, Like i said fu*k buddies, FWB, whatever, I wanted a girlfriend so I got one. Wasnt happy with her, left....End of story
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.Pair A Dice said:Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?
Couldnt of said it better my self, hit the nail on the head.Desdinova said:Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.
I also need time to make sure she isn't a mess. Some women's red flags don't show up for months after you start dating. Once they start popping up and you don't like them, then get rid of her.
There's nothing wrong with giving a woman exclusivity if she's earned it.