"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GF is being disrespectful already.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pair A Dice said:
Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.

And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
 

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Desdinova said:
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.

And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
I wasn't really concerned about her not sticking around, we had a FB couple of times a week thing going on so she was sticking around, it was more of the fact i actually liked her. But, then realized she has no idea how to treat men, so fvck it. I ended it.
 

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I find that women generally expect you to be exclusive after a couple of months, although I've had a few exceptions to that rule.

There's some chicks out there who aren't marriage material, but are too enjoyable to throw away quickly. My last gf was like that. I wasn't highly attracted to her, but she was fun to date. After the 8th month, she started getting stupid with marriage, kids, and moving in after I had repeatedly told her I want none of that. At that point, she was getting to be a pain in the ass and had gotten fatter, so I ended it.

My current gf is a whole different story. I'm highly attracted to her, and I actually want to keep her around.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I noticed the same thing. Especially after you start to make it more then once a week. You usually get the "where are we going with this" or "what are we" questions.
 

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Desdinova said:
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.

And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?
 

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Pair A Dice said:
Does your husband post on the forum as well? You 'liked' her? Keep fvcking her without being locked down. She probably changed because you put a title on it.
First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.

Second, ive done all that already, Like i said fu*k buddies, FWB, whatever, I wanted a girlfriend so I got one. Wasnt happy with her, left....End of story
 

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Crissco said:
First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.

Second, ive done all that already, Like i said fu*k buddies, FWB, whatever, I wanted a girlfriend so I got one. Wasnt happy with her, left....End of story
Ease up. Just busting your balls. What made her girlfriend material?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pair A Dice said:
Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?
Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.

I also need time to make sure she isn't a mess. Some women's red flags don't show up for months after you start dating. Once they start popping up and you don't like them, then get rid of her.

There's nothing wrong with giving a woman exclusivity if she's earned it.
 

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Desdinova said:
Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.

I also need time to make sure she isn't a mess. Some women's red flags don't show up for months after you start dating. Once they start popping up and you don't like them, then get rid of her.

There's nothing wrong with giving a woman exclusivity if she's earned it.
Couldnt of said it better my self, hit the nail on the head.
 
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