Pair A Dice
Don Juan
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Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Cuz i liked her at the timePair A Dice said:Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.Pair A Dice said:Why the fvck would you get into a LTR with her after only two months?
I wasn't really concerned about her not sticking around, we had a FB couple of times a week thing going on so she was sticking around, it was more of the fact i actually liked her. But, then realized she has no idea how to treat men, so fvck it. I ended it.Desdinova said:It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.
And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Does your husband post on the forum as well? You 'liked' her? Keep fvcking her without being locked down. She probably changed because you put a title on it.Crissco said:Cuz i liked her at the time
Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?Desdinova said:It's something you have to do if you want the chick to stick around. You may not be ready, but chances are she's like a fvcking melon in the fruit store about to go bad if you don't commit to eating it.
And if you find that she's a piece of crap, there's nothing stopping you from ending it.
First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.Pair A Dice said:Does your husband post on the forum as well? You 'liked' her? Keep fvcking her without being locked down. She probably changed because you put a title on it.
Ease up. Just busting your balls. What made her girlfriend material?Crissco said:First off, who the fu*k are you to talk to me like that.
Second, ive done all that already, Like i said fu*k buddies, FWB, whatever, I wanted a girlfriend so I got one. Wasnt happy with her, left....End of story
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.Pair A Dice said:Bullsh!t. Why eat a melon you're not ready to purchase? Even if you are, there are tons of other melons in the box too, so why not try some others while you're at it?
Couldnt of said it better my self, hit the nail on the head.Desdinova said:Before I go exclusive with a woman, I keep my options open. I generally date 2-3 women at one time and I ditch the ones who show their red flags early. The one that continues to show that she's low-maintenance and virtually free of baggage gets to keep me around, which I have absolutely no problem with. I like spending time with one woman who isn't a fvck head.
I also need time to make sure she isn't a mess. Some women's red flags don't show up for months after you start dating. Once they start popping up and you don't like them, then get rid of her.
There's nothing wrong with giving a woman exclusivity if she's earned it.