"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jetleg

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lately my GF is acting like a b1tch. She won't text, wont call and never suggest anything.

It startet about 10 days ago when she didnt feel like giving me a BJ, then she kicked and hit me during the night (she is 6'1 and strong - which kinda hurt), at mornning she said it was a mistake, i thought to my self - fine sh1t happens, and kegt first thing in the mornning.

This weekend it gotten worst, she only texts short messages,no winks - nothing anynore.

We went out for a drink after not seeing each other for a week. I invited her to my place like always but she said she "dont feel like anymore" and went home, then called me crying begging me to forgive her.
2 days ago she said she will call me and i havent heard from her ever since.

I have the feeling she is fading out, how would you approach this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Agreed. Get rid. Especially if she's violent. That's only gonna get worse, unless you split and she gets help. Trust, it happened to me, I retaliated, and guess who got in trouble.
 

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You obviously are viewed as a beta wimp by her.

There is no chance in hell any woman would think it's a good idea to put their hands on me. God help them if they did.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jetleg

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We'll its essier said than done, im not even close to being a wimp, but i still use my brain - if i touch her i go to jail.
 

NSX-R

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She's cheating you . Which female would call you crying just because she wasn't feeling it in the last 2 days? The only logical explanation is that she felt bad for cheating on you and she made her self obvious so she tried to back it up.

Don't dump her yet but give up on the relationship. Go NC and start watching other plates.
 

marmel75

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We'll its essier said than done, im not even close to being a wimp, but i still use my brain - if i touch her i go to jail.
You may not view yourself as one, but she does, otherwise she wouldn't have hit you. She obviously has no fear of you nor any respect for you.

I'd dump this chick faster than I typed this.
 

Yewki

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lately my GF is acting like a b1tch. She won't text, wont call and never suggest anything.
Withdraw attention, stop worrying about her, and pursue other girls.

Didn't need to read past the first two sentences of your post.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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RangerMIke

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When women start acting like this they are losing interest and/or another dude has floated into the picture. Only course of action is to back off and wait for her to contact you, until that happens make dates with other women you know.
 

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Obviously she feels guilty about something...that's where the anger and the tears are coming from.

I think the best way to dump a woman is to go AFC on her. It's the most effective way of getting rid of her. Tell her you'll love her forever even if she has found someone else, hug her, and summon a crocodile tear or two as you say a sad goodbye. Then as soon as the door closes behind you, laugh your ass off all the way home.
 
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CuddleJunkie

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Obviously she feels guilty about something...that's where the anger and the tears are coming from.

I think the best way to dump a woman is to go AFC on her. It's the most effect way of getting rid of her. Tell her you'll love her forever even if she has found someone else, hug her, and summon a crocodile tear or two as you say a sad goodbye. Then as soon as the door closes behind you, laugh your ass off all the way home.
That's some machiavelian **** right here. I bet is effective as ****.
 

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That's some machiavelian **** right here. I bet is effective as ****.
Definitely is. Never got what was such a big deal about maintaining hand during a breakup. Literally the only thing that matters is that things end peacefully with a minimum of drama.

Red pill during relationships, blue pill during breakups--best of both worlds.
 

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You lost. She reached the pedestal of not caring before you.
Don't waste your time now, just don't let it happen with the next one.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lozboss

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OP post update pls

My 2 cents: drop it like its hot. Go ghost NC, just block her and don't even tell her. You don't even want to salvage this.
 

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I would super nuke the fvck outta her hamster by not saying a word and just disappear. Block her number, delete from social media and never speak to her again. Bit harsh but it's what I'd do.
 

El Payaso

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I have the feeling she is fading out, how would you approach this?
Easy. You fade out too. Red Pill always says to give a woman less interest than her at all point on time so if she gives you 100, you give her 75. If she gives you 50, you give her 25. If she gives you 25, you give her 0.

Right now, she's giving you 0 so she shouldn't even exist to you.

Start dating other women, get involved with work, school or other projects, spend more time with your family, get into something active etc. These things will all take your mind off her that you won't even remember or care about the last time she called or what she did.
 

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We'll its essier said than done, im not even close to being a wimp, but i still use my brain - if i touch her i go to jail.
You didnt even asked her to apologize , and you say you are not wimp , maybe you are not wimp but you don't have dignity
 

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lately my GF is acting like a b1tch.
2 days ago she said she will call me and i havent heard from her ever since.

I have the feeling she is fading out, how would you approach this?
it sounds as if she has already faded out of the picture. Update us when you can.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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