"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jetleg

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lately my GF is acting like a b1tch. She won't text, wont call and never suggest anything.

It startet about 10 days ago when she didnt feel like giving me a BJ, then she kicked and hit me during the night (she is 6'1 and strong - which kinda hurt), at mornning she said it was a mistake, i thought to my self - fine sh1t happens, and kegt first thing in the mornning.

This weekend it gotten worst, she only texts short messages,no winks - nothing anynore.

We went out for a drink after not seeing each other for a week. I invited her to my place like always but she said she "dont feel like anymore" and went home, then called me crying begging me to forgive her.
2 days ago she said she will call me and i havent heard from her ever since.

I have the feeling she is fading out, how would you approach this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Agreed. Get rid. Especially if she's violent. That's only gonna get worse, unless you split and she gets help. Trust, it happened to me, I retaliated, and guess who got in trouble.
 

marmel75

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You obviously are viewed as a beta wimp by her.

There is no chance in hell any woman would think it's a good idea to put their hands on me. God help them if they did.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jetleg

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We'll its essier said than done, im not even close to being a wimp, but i still use my brain - if i touch her i go to jail.
 

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She's cheating you . Which female would call you crying just because she wasn't feeling it in the last 2 days? The only logical explanation is that she felt bad for cheating on you and she made her self obvious so she tried to back it up.

Don't dump her yet but give up on the relationship. Go NC and start watching other plates.
 

marmel75

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We'll its essier said than done, im not even close to being a wimp, but i still use my brain - if i touch her i go to jail.
You may not view yourself as one, but she does, otherwise she wouldn't have hit you. She obviously has no fear of you nor any respect for you.

I'd dump this chick faster than I typed this.
 

Yewki

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lately my GF is acting like a b1tch. She won't text, wont call and never suggest anything.
Withdraw attention, stop worrying about her, and pursue other girls.

Didn't need to read past the first two sentences of your post.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RangerMIke

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When women start acting like this they are losing interest and/or another dude has floated into the picture. Only course of action is to back off and wait for her to contact you, until that happens make dates with other women you know.
 

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Obviously she feels guilty about something...that's where the anger and the tears are coming from.

I think the best way to dump a woman is to go AFC on her. It's the most effective way of getting rid of her. Tell her you'll love her forever even if she has found someone else, hug her, and summon a crocodile tear or two as you say a sad goodbye. Then as soon as the door closes behind you, laugh your ass off all the way home.
 
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CuddleJunkie

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Obviously she feels guilty about something...that's where the anger and the tears are coming from.

I think the best way to dump a woman is to go AFC on her. It's the most effect way of getting rid of her. Tell her you'll love her forever even if she has found someone else, hug her, and summon a crocodile tear or two as you say a sad goodbye. Then as soon as the door closes behind you, laugh your ass off all the way home.
That's some machiavelian **** right here. I bet is effective as ****.
 

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That's some machiavelian **** right here. I bet is effective as ****.
Definitely is. Never got what was such a big deal about maintaining hand during a breakup. Literally the only thing that matters is that things end peacefully with a minimum of drama.

Red pill during relationships, blue pill during breakups--best of both worlds.
 

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You lost. She reached the pedestal of not caring before you.
Don't waste your time now, just don't let it happen with the next one.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OP post update pls

My 2 cents: drop it like its hot. Go ghost NC, just block her and don't even tell her. You don't even want to salvage this.
 

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I would super nuke the fvck outta her hamster by not saying a word and just disappear. Block her number, delete from social media and never speak to her again. Bit harsh but it's what I'd do.
 

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I have the feeling she is fading out, how would you approach this?
Easy. You fade out too. Red Pill always says to give a woman less interest than her at all point on time so if she gives you 100, you give her 75. If she gives you 50, you give her 25. If she gives you 25, you give her 0.

Right now, she's giving you 0 so she shouldn't even exist to you.

Start dating other women, get involved with work, school or other projects, spend more time with your family, get into something active etc. These things will all take your mind off her that you won't even remember or care about the last time she called or what she did.
 

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We'll its essier said than done, im not even close to being a wimp, but i still use my brain - if i touch her i go to jail.
You didnt even asked her to apologize , and you say you are not wimp , maybe you are not wimp but you don't have dignity
 

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lately my GF is acting like a b1tch.
2 days ago she said she will call me and i havent heard from her ever since.

I have the feeling she is fading out, how would you approach this?
it sounds as if she has already faded out of the picture. Update us when you can.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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