"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
GF Broke up with me
- Thread starter HBK
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well Guys, after 3 and half weeks of no contact the Ex text me this evening out of the blue.
Here it is
"Hi there!, How are ya? Im sorry i havent been in touch, meant to text before this.ill have that money on thurs for ya, that ok? how have you been?"
My Reply an hour later
"Hey XXX, Yeah in great form, cant complain. No Hassle, sure give it to xxx and he can pass it on"
Her reply "yep will do no bother"
She owed me some cash which i loaned to her when we were going out, my mates shares house with her.
Do you think that was ok, i think so??
Out of the blue today she text me again asking "Hi, Sorry for boterin ya,was just wondering if you were free to drop down later?"
I think she is freaking out that i havent contacted her, text her when i was drunk, acted AFC and begged for her not to go.
So you think i should reply?
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NO not yet she is testing to see how fast you will jump to her call.HBK said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I agree with Don..., wait it out.DonGorgon said:
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I say there is a 80% chance he will contact her or answer her callWarrior74 said:
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you did the right thing with your text - acting casual and not jumping up and down to her call. The minute she knows you have other girls on the cards she will be JEALOUS.
are you going to meet her on your terms once you have some time free up in the future? meet up and sus her out. go grab a quick coffee and after half an hour say, well it was lovely seeing you, but I have to go meet a friend at x o'clock. maybe we can do this again sometime when we're both free.
main objective - b@ng her, whilst seeing other chicks.
I thought it would be one of two things, one i hope that we can be friends and i dont want things to be awkward, or two i miss you and i want to get back with you..
Turns out she wants to to give it a second try. Im sorry, I miss you, I regret what i did, are you seeing anyone? hope you can forgive me! etc...Bascially she told me she was going through some hard times because it was her moms anniversary at the time and her new job was stressing her out. She asked me do i still care about her, and i said i dont know. I countered with the fact i was her BF and if she had problems, or wanted space she should have talked to me rather then push me away...I asked her what would stop her from breaking up in a month times again, she had no reply only "i wouldnt, i realised what i lost"..Long story short i told her id think about it. I was cool, polite and just listened to what she had to say and left. No Kiss, no hug just left. She seemed Sincere and Genuine, but i left her with the feeling that i wasnt going to be made a fool of or going to put up with any nonsense.
Well there you go lads, Shoot me down
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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My last prediction was right, so i say there is a 75% chance you get back with her...LOLHBK said:Well Guys, i did meet her as i wanted to hear what she had to say for herself.
I thought it would be one of two things, one i hope that we can be friends and i dont want things to be awkward, or two i miss you and i want to get back with you..
Turns out she wants to to give it a second try. Im sorry, I miss you, I regret what i did, are you seeing anyone? hope you can forgive me! etc...Bascially she told me she was going through some hard times because it was her moms anniversary at the time and her new job was stressing her out. She asked me do i still care about her, and i said i dont know. I countered with the fact i was her BF and if she had problems, or wanted space she should have talked to me rather then push me away...I asked her what would stop her from breaking up in a month times again, she had no reply only "i wouldnt, i realised what i lost"..Long story short i told her id think about it. I was cool, polite and just listened to what she had to say and left. No Kiss, no hug just left. She seemed Sincere and Genuine, but i left her with the feeling that i wasnt going to be made a fool of or going to put up with any nonsense.
Well there you go lads, Shoot me down