"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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GF Broke up with me

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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CFERD

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Your right OP, Jokeers has made some really good posts about moving on and putting an ex in perspective,.
 

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UPDATE:

Well Guys, after 3 and half weeks of no contact the Ex text me this evening out of the blue.

Here it is

"Hi there!, How are ya? Im sorry i havent been in touch, meant to text before this.ill have that money on thurs for ya, that ok? how have you been?"

My Reply an hour later

"Hey XXX, Yeah in great form, cant complain. No Hassle, sure give it to xxx and he can pass it on"

Her reply "yep will do no bother"


She owed me some cash which i loaned to her when we were going out, my mates shares house with her.

Do you think that was ok, i think so??
 

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Hi Lads, Just a quick update.

Out of the blue today she text me again asking "Hi, Sorry for boterin ya,was just wondering if you were free to drop down later?"

I think she is freaking out that i havent contacted her, text her when i was drunk, acted AFC and begged for her not to go.

So you think i should reply?
 

DonGorgon

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HBK said:
Hi Lads, Just a quick update.

Out of the blue today she text me again asking "Hi, Sorry for boterin ya,was just wondering if you were free to drop down later?"

I think she is freaking out that i havent contacted her, text her when i was drunk, acted AFC and begged for her not to go.

So you think i should reply?
NO not yet she is testing to see how fast you will jump to her call.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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In2theGame

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DonGorgon said:
NO not yet she is testing to see how fast you will jump to her call.
I agree with Don..., wait it out.
 

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Agree. In fact, I wouldn't bother contacting her at all anymore. What's fun is fun and what's done is done.
 

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chicks are funny eh..if she was dating or seeing a hot guy, she wouldnt be in touch, and she certainly wouldnt be wanting to pay back any money. this is an excuse to SEE YOU and WORK OUT if you are NEEDY and would TAKE her BACK

you did the right thing with your text - acting casual and not jumping up and down to her call. The minute she knows you have other girls on the cards she will be JEALOUS.

are you going to meet her on your terms once you have some time free up in the future? meet up and sus her out. go grab a quick coffee and after half an hour say, well it was lovely seeing you, but I have to go meet a friend at x o'clock. maybe we can do this again sometime when we're both free.

main objective - b@ng her, whilst seeing other chicks.
 

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Well Guys, i did meet her as i wanted to hear what she had to say for herself.

I thought it would be one of two things, one i hope that we can be friends and i dont want things to be awkward, or two i miss you and i want to get back with you..

Turns out she wants to to give it a second try. Im sorry, I miss you, I regret what i did, are you seeing anyone? hope you can forgive me! etc...Bascially she told me she was going through some hard times because it was her moms anniversary at the time and her new job was stressing her out. She asked me do i still care about her, and i said i dont know. I countered with the fact i was her BF and if she had problems, or wanted space she should have talked to me rather then push me away...I asked her what would stop her from breaking up in a month times again, she had no reply only "i wouldnt, i realised what i lost"..Long story short i told her id think about it. I was cool, polite and just listened to what she had to say and left. No Kiss, no hug just left. She seemed Sincere and Genuine, but i left her with the feeling that i wasnt going to be made a fool of or going to put up with any nonsense.

Well there you go lads, Shoot me down :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

DonGorgon

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HBK said:
Well Guys, i did meet her as i wanted to hear what she had to say for herself.

I thought it would be one of two things, one i hope that we can be friends and i dont want things to be awkward, or two i miss you and i want to get back with you..

Turns out she wants to to give it a second try. Im sorry, I miss you, I regret what i did, are you seeing anyone? hope you can forgive me! etc...Bascially she told me she was going through some hard times because it was her moms anniversary at the time and her new job was stressing her out. She asked me do i still care about her, and i said i dont know. I countered with the fact i was her BF and if she had problems, or wanted space she should have talked to me rather then push me away...I asked her what would stop her from breaking up in a month times again, she had no reply only "i wouldnt, i realised what i lost"..Long story short i told her id think about it. I was cool, polite and just listened to what she had to say and left. No Kiss, no hug just left. She seemed Sincere and Genuine, but i left her with the feeling that i wasnt going to be made a fool of or going to put up with any nonsense.

Well there you go lads, Shoot me down :)
My last prediction was right, so i say there is a 75% chance you get back with her...LOL
 

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DonGorgon said:
My last prediction was right, so i say there is a 75% chance you get back with her...LOL
Theres no flies on you DonGordon, and if they are their paying rent! :)
 
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