"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GF Broke up with me
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well Guys, after 3 and half weeks of no contact the Ex text me this evening out of the blue.
Here it is
"Hi there!, How are ya? Im sorry i havent been in touch, meant to text before this.ill have that money on thurs for ya, that ok? how have you been?"
My Reply an hour later
"Hey XXX, Yeah in great form, cant complain. No Hassle, sure give it to xxx and he can pass it on"
Her reply "yep will do no bother"
She owed me some cash which i loaned to her when we were going out, my mates shares house with her.
Do you think that was ok, i think so??
Out of the blue today she text me again asking "Hi, Sorry for boterin ya,was just wondering if you were free to drop down later?"
I think she is freaking out that i havent contacted her, text her when i was drunk, acted AFC and begged for her not to go.
So you think i should reply?
DonGorgon
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NO not yet she is testing to see how fast you will jump to her call.HBK said:
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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I agree with Don..., wait it out.DonGorgon said:
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I say there is a 80% chance he will contact her or answer her callWarrior74 said:
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you did the right thing with your text - acting casual and not jumping up and down to her call. The minute she knows you have other girls on the cards she will be JEALOUS.
are you going to meet her on your terms once you have some time free up in the future? meet up and sus her out. go grab a quick coffee and after half an hour say, well it was lovely seeing you, but I have to go meet a friend at x o'clock. maybe we can do this again sometime when we're both free.
main objective - b@ng her, whilst seeing other chicks.
I thought it would be one of two things, one i hope that we can be friends and i dont want things to be awkward, or two i miss you and i want to get back with you..
Turns out she wants to to give it a second try. Im sorry, I miss you, I regret what i did, are you seeing anyone? hope you can forgive me! etc...Bascially she told me she was going through some hard times because it was her moms anniversary at the time and her new job was stressing her out. She asked me do i still care about her, and i said i dont know. I countered with the fact i was her BF and if she had problems, or wanted space she should have talked to me rather then push me away...I asked her what would stop her from breaking up in a month times again, she had no reply only "i wouldnt, i realised what i lost"..Long story short i told her id think about it. I was cool, polite and just listened to what she had to say and left. No Kiss, no hug just left. She seemed Sincere and Genuine, but i left her with the feeling that i wasnt going to be made a fool of or going to put up with any nonsense.
Well there you go lads, Shoot me down
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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My last prediction was right, so i say there is a 75% chance you get back with her...LOLHBK said:Well Guys, i did meet her as i wanted to hear what she had to say for herself.
I thought it would be one of two things, one i hope that we can be friends and i dont want things to be awkward, or two i miss you and i want to get back with you..
Turns out she wants to to give it a second try. Im sorry, I miss you, I regret what i did, are you seeing anyone? hope you can forgive me! etc...Bascially she told me she was going through some hard times because it was her moms anniversary at the time and her new job was stressing her out. She asked me do i still care about her, and i said i dont know. I countered with the fact i was her BF and if she had problems, or wanted space she should have talked to me rather then push me away...I asked her what would stop her from breaking up in a month times again, she had no reply only "i wouldnt, i realised what i lost"..Long story short i told her id think about it. I was cool, polite and just listened to what she had to say and left. No Kiss, no hug just left. She seemed Sincere and Genuine, but i left her with the feeling that i wasnt going to be made a fool of or going to put up with any nonsense.
Well there you go lads, Shoot me down