I'm hitting on a girl, and I want her number so I can call her and we can set up a date or something at xmas break. I've got her MSN, but that's not a good idea to aks her out over msn. So what/when should I tell her? Any links or some quick answers?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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quick answers? dont be needy. (period!)
go read pooks book, its like 270 pages, but once your done, you'll have a totally different perspective.
good luck.
go read pooks book, its like 270 pages, but once your done, you'll have a totally different perspective.
good luck.
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Just say "Hey, I am heading out but let me have your digits so I can call you sometime."
Presto. Number.
Then wait until you feel good about it and give her a call and say "Hey, this saturday I was thinking that we could go do X. I'm thinking I'll pick you up at 7." If she is interested she will say ok or suggest an alternative.
Presto. Date.
Not that hard buddy, their aren't any magic tricks. You just have to man up and ask the question. I know it is tough putting yourself out there for rejection, but even if she rejects you it doesn't mean anything, she is one fish in a pond of many hundreds. And most of all, you have to remember it is her loss, not yours!
Presto. Number.
Then wait until you feel good about it and give her a call and say "Hey, this saturday I was thinking that we could go do X. I'm thinking I'll pick you up at 7." If she is interested she will say ok or suggest an alternative.
Presto. Date.
Not that hard buddy, their aren't any magic tricks. You just have to man up and ask the question. I know it is tough putting yourself out there for rejection, but even if she rejects you it doesn't mean anything, she is one fish in a pond of many hundreds. And most of all, you have to remember it is her loss, not yours!
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Why's MSN not good? Whats wrong with that?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I (as well as many others, I'm sure) have successfully hooked up with girls by using MSN plenty of times, bro. In the early stages, I actually like it better, since it's very unassuming, and also you know she's most likely just sitting at home when she's on MSN.I've got her MSN, but that's not a good idea to aks her out over msn.
Good luck, I've recently come off of # close anxiety - not approach anxiety but closing anxiety because I had a fear of risking where I currently was in relation to target. Once you close it you'll realize it's very very very simple and the pressure will subside immensly.
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just say maybe we can hang out on break, so you should give me your number. say that.