I'm hitting on a girl, and I want her number so I can call her and we can set up a date or something at xmas break. I've got her MSN, but that's not a good idea to aks her out over msn. So what/when should I tell her? Any links or some quick answers?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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quick answers? dont be needy. (period!)
go read pooks book, its like 270 pages, but once your done, you'll have a totally different perspective.
good luck.
go read pooks book, its like 270 pages, but once your done, you'll have a totally different perspective.
good luck.
happymeal88
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Just say "Hey, I am heading out but let me have your digits so I can call you sometime."
Presto. Number.
Then wait until you feel good about it and give her a call and say "Hey, this saturday I was thinking that we could go do X. I'm thinking I'll pick you up at 7." If she is interested she will say ok or suggest an alternative.
Presto. Date.
Not that hard buddy, their aren't any magic tricks. You just have to man up and ask the question. I know it is tough putting yourself out there for rejection, but even if she rejects you it doesn't mean anything, she is one fish in a pond of many hundreds. And most of all, you have to remember it is her loss, not yours!
Presto. Number.
Then wait until you feel good about it and give her a call and say "Hey, this saturday I was thinking that we could go do X. I'm thinking I'll pick you up at 7." If she is interested she will say ok or suggest an alternative.
Presto. Date.
Not that hard buddy, their aren't any magic tricks. You just have to man up and ask the question. I know it is tough putting yourself out there for rejection, but even if she rejects you it doesn't mean anything, she is one fish in a pond of many hundreds. And most of all, you have to remember it is her loss, not yours!
Dayum itz jee
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Why's MSN not good? Whats wrong with that?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I (as well as many others, I'm sure) have successfully hooked up with girls by using MSN plenty of times, bro. In the early stages, I actually like it better, since it's very unassuming, and also you know she's most likely just sitting at home when she's on MSN.I've got her MSN, but that's not a good idea to aks her out over msn.
Good luck, I've recently come off of # close anxiety - not approach anxiety but closing anxiety because I had a fear of risking where I currently was in relation to target. Once you close it you'll realize it's very very very simple and the pressure will subside immensly.
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just say maybe we can hang out on break, so you should give me your number. say that.