Hey guys I just wanted your thoughts on this. Say you hit it off with a girl at a party or something but you didn't get her number for some random reason, is it acceptable to ask your friend for it and call her or is that sort of stalkerish?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Getting a number through a friend
- Thread starter flint
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Be a man and ask for the number yourself. It will seem creepy if you call the girl and she asks you how you got her #. Girls want men not wussies. Specially if her friend happens to be a female. Never ask for help from another woman about any sort of dating issue.
MascaraSnake
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I'd say no unless you're completely sure you're never going to see her again (which doesn't seem to be the case). Even if you won't, though, you still have a good chance of looking creepy.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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You want to ask your friend for the girl's #? The answer is;
In English: No!
In Spanish: No!
In German: Nein!
In Russian: Nyet!
In Ebonics: Hell naw!
In my world: F**K NO!
You must strike while the iron is hot.
You failed.
Asking a guy friend for the # shows that you have no balls.
Asking a girl friend for the # shows that you have a vagina.
And never ever ask a woman about dating.
Point. Blank. Period.
In English: No!
In Spanish: No!
In German: Nein!
In Russian: Nyet!
In Ebonics: Hell naw!
In my world: F**K NO!
You must strike while the iron is hot.
You failed.
Asking a guy friend for the # shows that you have no balls.
Asking a girl friend for the # shows that you have a vagina.
And never ever ask a woman about dating.
Point. Blank. Period.