"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Gettin a girl by going through her friend?

cyjay201

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Alrite I met a HB through a good girl friend of mine. She seriously is about a 9.5, first signs were good. I introduced myself with confidence, made eye contact with her, gave her the more personal handshake and smiled a lot. She gave some signs of attraction but it's still a work in progress.

Anyway here's my question, the only time I'll ever see her is if I go through her friend. The next time I'm thinkin about asking for her #, I know it's not gonna be easy but has any DJ's on this site done this before? If so what should I watch out for.

P.S. I'm currently seeing two other girls from different areas. So it's not like she's my main focus.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Osiris7250

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had pretty much the exact same thing going on last year. keep up what your doin as far as confidence and other attributes go, just dont flood your friend with talk about her because your friend will feel used and possibly bad mouth you to the other girl. check out theonedude's thread and read his 3 rules, you might be able to get some more advice on what your looking for.
 

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Originally posted by Osiris7250
had pretty much the exact same thing going on last year. keep up what your doin as far as confidence and other attributes go, just dont flood your friend with talk about her because your friend will feel used and possibly bad mouth you to the other girl. check out theonedude's thread and read his 3 rules, you might be able to get some more advice on what your looking for.
Alrite thanks.
 

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If you are interested, definitely ask for her number asap. Eliminating the usage of a middleman will help the relationship.
 

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Originally posted by California Love
If you are interested, definitely ask for her number asap. Eliminating the usage of a middleman will help the relationship.
Yeah that's the problem, I only see her when she's with my friend. I'm not sure when I'll have the time to ask for the digits, but if I feel like doing it I probably will act.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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