"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Get serious to attract women.

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People say your goal when you go out with her is to make sure she has "fun." Not sure I agree with this. It is good to have fun, but it won't make her think of you as a suitable long term partner, it's more of a one night stand, sex buddy type of thing.


Here is an article on Sosuave that says: "Have a great time and attract women."

http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/277.htm

and here is an article that says: "Get serious and attract women"

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/get-serious-to-attract-women-20110525-1f3lg.html



Apparently if you want a relationship, you got to get serious.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Trump said:
and here is an article that says: "Get serious and attract women"

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/get-serious-to-attract-women-20110525-1f3lg.html

Apparently if you want a relationship, you got to get serious.
Omigosh, there's that study about how women find smiling guys unattractive again. That was ONE study that was conducted by showing pictures of some dude to women. He was goofy looking when he smiled, even I thought so.

Anyway, that article had nothing to do with being in a relationship, it's more about first impressions.

If women really don't like men who smile, I really have to wonder how the fvck they view us. We get accused of objectifying women, but if they don't want us to even smile, I can't believe they think of us as persons - just as mysterious, brooding, resource providers who exist mainly to make their girlfriends jealous.
 

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Well it's all about what each man wants. The thinking is, that if you show the woman a good time, she will associate your presence with a positive, fun aura. If you're all serious a straight faced while discussing politics like an old man, she's going to think of you as boring.

I'm exaggerating about the latter, but in my personal experience fun has always worked. Maybe that's just because I'm with young high school girls and that's what they're out for. Never dated anyone over 17 so I could be totally out in left field here.
This, in all of my experiences when I have been having fun with my friends when going out and not even trying to look or start game on anyone, I have almost always had a girl approach me unexpectedly. Obviously it doesn't happen all the time but girls definitely notice. Always have fun instead of that try hard serious look.
 

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I say balance.
Be fun, but don't be her personal circus clown. You aren't there for her entertainment.

I can see how someone could take "be fun" as be her dog doing tricks for treats, which is bad.

Just act like you are with one of the bros, but add in a little sexuality. Gold.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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