"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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People say your goal when you go out with her is to make sure she has "fun." Not sure I agree with this. It is good to have fun, but it won't make her think of you as a suitable long term partner, it's more of a one night stand, sex buddy type of thing.


Here is an article on Sosuave that says: "Have a great time and attract women."

http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/277.htm

and here is an article that says: "Get serious and attract women"

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/get-serious-to-attract-women-20110525-1f3lg.html



Apparently if you want a relationship, you got to get serious.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Trump said:
and here is an article that says: "Get serious and attract women"

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/get-serious-to-attract-women-20110525-1f3lg.html

Apparently if you want a relationship, you got to get serious.
Omigosh, there's that study about how women find smiling guys unattractive again. That was ONE study that was conducted by showing pictures of some dude to women. He was goofy looking when he smiled, even I thought so.

Anyway, that article had nothing to do with being in a relationship, it's more about first impressions.

If women really don't like men who smile, I really have to wonder how the fvck they view us. We get accused of objectifying women, but if they don't want us to even smile, I can't believe they think of us as persons - just as mysterious, brooding, resource providers who exist mainly to make their girlfriends jealous.
 

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Well it's all about what each man wants. The thinking is, that if you show the woman a good time, she will associate your presence with a positive, fun aura. If you're all serious a straight faced while discussing politics like an old man, she's going to think of you as boring.

I'm exaggerating about the latter, but in my personal experience fun has always worked. Maybe that's just because I'm with young high school girls and that's what they're out for. Never dated anyone over 17 so I could be totally out in left field here.
This, in all of my experiences when I have been having fun with my friends when going out and not even trying to look or start game on anyone, I have almost always had a girl approach me unexpectedly. Obviously it doesn't happen all the time but girls definitely notice. Always have fun instead of that try hard serious look.
 

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I say balance.
Be fun, but don't be her personal circus clown. You aren't there for her entertainment.

I can see how someone could take "be fun" as be her dog doing tricks for treats, which is bad.

Just act like you are with one of the bros, but add in a little sexuality. Gold.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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