"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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People say your goal when you go out with her is to make sure she has "fun." Not sure I agree with this. It is good to have fun, but it won't make her think of you as a suitable long term partner, it's more of a one night stand, sex buddy type of thing.


Here is an article on Sosuave that says: "Have a great time and attract women."

http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/277.htm

and here is an article that says: "Get serious and attract women"

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/get-serious-to-attract-women-20110525-1f3lg.html



Apparently if you want a relationship, you got to get serious.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Trump said:
and here is an article that says: "Get serious and attract women"

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/get-serious-to-attract-women-20110525-1f3lg.html

Apparently if you want a relationship, you got to get serious.
Omigosh, there's that study about how women find smiling guys unattractive again. That was ONE study that was conducted by showing pictures of some dude to women. He was goofy looking when he smiled, even I thought so.

Anyway, that article had nothing to do with being in a relationship, it's more about first impressions.

If women really don't like men who smile, I really have to wonder how the fvck they view us. We get accused of objectifying women, but if they don't want us to even smile, I can't believe they think of us as persons - just as mysterious, brooding, resource providers who exist mainly to make their girlfriends jealous.
 

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Well it's all about what each man wants. The thinking is, that if you show the woman a good time, she will associate your presence with a positive, fun aura. If you're all serious a straight faced while discussing politics like an old man, she's going to think of you as boring.

I'm exaggerating about the latter, but in my personal experience fun has always worked. Maybe that's just because I'm with young high school girls and that's what they're out for. Never dated anyone over 17 so I could be totally out in left field here.
This, in all of my experiences when I have been having fun with my friends when going out and not even trying to look or start game on anyone, I have almost always had a girl approach me unexpectedly. Obviously it doesn't happen all the time but girls definitely notice. Always have fun instead of that try hard serious look.
 

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I say balance.
Be fun, but don't be her personal circus clown. You aren't there for her entertainment.

I can see how someone could take "be fun" as be her dog doing tricks for treats, which is bad.

Just act like you are with one of the bros, but add in a little sexuality. Gold.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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