Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The justifications for not understanding how to sarge the net are pathetic.SinRod said:I seen all these posts on here about guys who want to know if they should go on the computer and cant find a date yall be men and find a ***** on the street or in the clubs ok?guys who internet date are pathetic!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
So women in cities are not interested in dating a suave, charming gentleman?you must not live in a city..women in cities, cold approaching is a no go
Ok, thanks. I'm out.SinRod said:get off the internet and start dating like real man NOW!
baller1985 said:how is it not manly to hit up myspace, get 10 phone #s from girls there within a few days, and then call them all up and set up 5 dates for Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, SAturday, and Sunday???
Cuz the guy who does that will be possibly ****ing 5 different girls in 5 days LIKE A REAL MAN
and YOU will be cold approaching chasing women who arent interested in being approached and not gettin any!!
KEEP THIS IN MIND:
YOU DONT KNOW IF A RANDOM WOMAN ON THE STREET IS OPEN TO BE APPROACHED. She may be having a bad day, have a bf, be gay, be an uninterested feminist, be depressed, just had a family member die, just got fired from her job, ect ect ect
ONLINE however, the women that say they are single and have profiles up, are OPEN to being talked to, and that is 100% accurate.
Sinrod, your a Nimrod
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hey look buddy don't listen to these guys their really dumb when it comes to dating on the internet. You don't have no confidence cause that's what you think. trust me it is all in your mind. you can do it. Just don't be takinf advise from baller and them guys because all you will end up with is lonelyness and a semen-stained computer chair. just ask baller, he tells you.Willis said:Cant, no Confidence or self-esteem
Umm... It's "they're".SinRod said:...their really dumb...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.