Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The justifications for not understanding how to sarge the net are pathetic.SinRod said:I seen all these posts on here about guys who want to know if they should go on the computer and cant find a date yall be men and find a ***** on the street or in the clubs ok?guys who internet date are pathetic!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So women in cities are not interested in dating a suave, charming gentleman?you must not live in a city..women in cities, cold approaching is a no go
Ok, thanks. I'm out.SinRod said:get off the internet and start dating like real man NOW!
baller1985 said:how is it not manly to hit up myspace, get 10 phone #s from girls there within a few days, and then call them all up and set up 5 dates for Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, SAturday, and Sunday???
Cuz the guy who does that will be possibly ****ing 5 different girls in 5 days LIKE A REAL MAN
and YOU will be cold approaching chasing women who arent interested in being approached and not gettin any!!
KEEP THIS IN MIND:
YOU DONT KNOW IF A RANDOM WOMAN ON THE STREET IS OPEN TO BE APPROACHED. She may be having a bad day, have a bf, be gay, be an uninterested feminist, be depressed, just had a family member die, just got fired from her job, ect ect ect
ONLINE however, the women that say they are single and have profiles up, are OPEN to being talked to, and that is 100% accurate.
Sinrod, your a Nimrod
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hey look buddy don't listen to these guys their really dumb when it comes to dating on the internet. You don't have no confidence cause that's what you think. trust me it is all in your mind. you can do it. Just don't be takinf advise from baller and them guys because all you will end up with is lonelyness and a semen-stained computer chair. just ask baller, he tells you.Willis said:Cant, no Confidence or self-esteem
Umm... It's "they're".SinRod said:...their really dumb...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.