You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The justifications for not understanding how to sarge the net are pathetic.SinRod said:I seen all these posts on here about guys who want to know if they should go on the computer and cant find a date yall be men and find a ***** on the street or in the clubs ok?guys who internet date are pathetic!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So women in cities are not interested in dating a suave, charming gentleman?you must not live in a city..women in cities, cold approaching is a no go
Ok, thanks. I'm out.SinRod said:get off the internet and start dating like real man NOW!
baller1985 said:how is it not manly to hit up myspace, get 10 phone #s from girls there within a few days, and then call them all up and set up 5 dates for Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, SAturday, and Sunday???
Cuz the guy who does that will be possibly ****ing 5 different girls in 5 days LIKE A REAL MAN
and YOU will be cold approaching chasing women who arent interested in being approached and not gettin any!!
KEEP THIS IN MIND:
YOU DONT KNOW IF A RANDOM WOMAN ON THE STREET IS OPEN TO BE APPROACHED. She may be having a bad day, have a bf, be gay, be an uninterested feminist, be depressed, just had a family member die, just got fired from her job, ect ect ect
ONLINE however, the women that say they are single and have profiles up, are OPEN to being talked to, and that is 100% accurate.
Sinrod, your a Nimrod
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
hey look buddy don't listen to these guys their really dumb when it comes to dating on the internet. You don't have no confidence cause that's what you think. trust me it is all in your mind. you can do it. Just don't be takinf advise from baller and them guys because all you will end up with is lonelyness and a semen-stained computer chair. just ask baller, he tells you.Willis said:Cant, no Confidence or self-esteem
Umm... It's "they're".SinRod said:...their really dumb...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.